hello, we are getting married in a private ceremony with only our immediate family members on a Friday then having a VERY casual backyard BBQ with our friends on Saturday. How do I word the invitations so our friends know it's only a party and not a ceremony??? I would like to keep it short and sweet as the invitations are postcards with limited space. I want to write something like "we got hitched, come party" but we won't be officially married when the invites go out. Help!!!!!