Plus-ones on the STD?

peggyo10

We are getting ready to send out our save the date postcards (YAY!!!) and I am wondering what you ladies think about addressing them...

For those friends in relationships, we are addressing the STDs to both people.  A lot of friends are not even dating anyone, but we intend to invite them with a plus-one.  Should we address the postcard to Mr. Friend and Guest? 

I'm leaning toward just addressing it to the friend and then including the "and Guest" on the invite.

Thanks!

hz80408

I did exactly what you said! Just the actual guest's name on the invite!

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

It really depends. If someone is coming from out of town, they'll probably want to know if they need to make travel arrangements for a guest.

But if you aren't 100% sure you CAN invite them with a guest, don't put it on the STD.

I did, but I only sent STDs to OOT guests.

fam6

I would not do +1...but if you want to let them know they can bring a guest, put guest.  I would do my best to talk to those guests before invitation time and get a guests name to include on the invite, it will be a small way of making that guest feel included and welcome.  Then you will also have the name for escort card/seating charts...or anything else that might come up.

hamiltci

I'm doing +1 on the STD because people need to know as soon as possible how many to make travel arrangements for (my wedding is overseas.) So it depends on your situation.

peggyo10

thanks, ladies!

Karen's MOH

I did for OOT guests, but not single friends who lived closer and knew a lot of people at the wedding, for STDs. It turned out we were able to extend it to everyone, but I figured someone driving for an hour didn't need to know 8 months out, but someone flying or driving 5+ hours might want to know right away to make plans.

Learn from my mistakes-- write down somewhere who you invited with a guest and who you didn't! Seems obvious, but I made judgement calls as I was addressing and never wrote it down. Since everyone got an 'and guest' it ended up not mattering, but stupid mistake.