Unmarried couple, does name order matter?

Irishcurls

Hm, I thought I had this worked out, but FI and I just got an invite to my cousin's wedding that was addressed as:

Mr. FI
Ms. Irishcurls
Address

But they have never met my FI, so it got me thinking....to our unmarried guests that we're including guests that we don't know well/never met, does the man always go first? Regardless of relationship to the B&G?

hz80408

This is wrong.  Female ALWAYS goes first for unmarried couples.

banana468

The woman is always addressed first for an unmarried couple living together.

Similarly, if the couple is married and the woman keeps her maiden name, her name is listed first.

mica178

In general, I'd write the lady's name first.

tenofcups4me

The etiquette answer is that the woman goes first. However, when we sent our invitations, in that situation the name we put first was that of the person we knew better -- in other words, the person we were really inviting -- whether than was the man or the woman. So if I was inviting my male cousin with his female girlfried, I put:

Mr. John Smith
Ms. Jane Doe

because I personally thought it would be really weird to put the name of a woman I didn't know above the name of the cousin I was actually inviting. Of course, for my female friends, I put their name first.

Irishcurls

Good to know, I thought it looked strange! Thanks!