Addressing envelope.. married couple with a child who has different last name

mlisa04

How do I address an envelope to a married couple "Mr and Mrs. John R" and the step daughter who has a different last name than them both. I wouldn't say "The R Family" because that is not her last name, right?

cebrady89

I would not say the R family just because that might indicate to them that only Mr. and Mrs. John R, and not the daughter, are invited.

"Mr. and Mrs. John R

Jane M

123 First Street

etc. etc."

Just put her name on a second line, unless she's older and you think sending her a separate invitation would be better.

Priya490

I agree with PP.

coraleetbwed

Agree with PPs.

MyNameIsNot

You never address an invitation to the Smith Family.  It's vague, and it's rude to convey that you can't be bothered to address them by name.  

Typically, you'd do:

Mr. and Mrs. John Smith

Suzie

In this case, you'd just include the child's last name on her line.  If there are children with different last names in the house, I'd probably revert back to not addressing the children by last name.  

cebrady89

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[QUOTE]<strong>You never address an invitation to the Smith Family.  It's vague, and it's rude to convey that you can't be bothered to address them by name.</strong>   Typically, you'd do: Mr. and Mrs. John Smith Suzie In this case, you'd just include the child's last name on her line.  If there are children with different last names in the house, I'd probably revert back to not addressing the children by last name.  
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</div><div>I don't really agree with that. If you're inviting the entire family, I don't think it's rude to address the envelope to "The Smith Family". Granted, I'm using inner envelopes so anytime I do address something to the Smith Family it will list individual names on the inner envelope. </div><div>
</div><div>But I do agree, if there are multiple children with different last names, they should all be listed separately, probably without last names at all. You wouldn't want the one step child being excluded if there are other children. 

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kristinanddan

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Addressing envelope.. married couple with a child who has different last name : I don't really agree with that. If you're inviting the entire family, I don't think it's rude to address the envelope to "The Smith Family". Granted, I'm using inner envelopes so anytime I do address something to the Smith Family it will list individual names on the inner envelope.  But I do agree, if there are multiple children with different last names, they should all be listed separately, probably without last names at all. You wouldn't want the one step child being excluded if there are other children. 
Posted by cebrady89[/QUOTE]<div>PP is correct and you are wrong. The Smith Family is ambiguous - includes grandma, Uncle Joe, and twice removed cousin Larry. 

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MyNameIsNot

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Addressing envelope.. married couple with a child who has different last name : <strong>I don't really agree with that.</strong> If you're inviting the entire family, I don't think it's rude to address the envelope to "The Smith Family". Granted, I'm using inner envelopes so anytime I do address something to the Smith Family it will list individual names on the inner envelope.  But I do agree, if there are multiple children with different last names, they should all be listed separately, probably without last names at all. You wouldn't want the one step child being excluded if there are other children. 
Posted by cebrady89[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>You don't have to agree with it.  It's still incorrect and rude to use "The Smith Family."  </div><div>
</div><div>Pick up an etiquette book if you are confused.  

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