Okay, I finally sent out my STD cards...a little later than I should have. and they are confusing everyone. I am getting calls like crazy of people thinking their husbands lost the informational content of the letters thinking they were the actual invitation! You would be suprised at how many times that has happened! My mom insisted on us having them, my sister payed for them, and no one I sent one to even knows what in the heck save the dates are! How traditional are they really? This is rediculous. I could have lived without them, as everyone invited already knows when we are getting married. They are turning out to be more hassle than they were worth with all the confused phone calls...okay...I am done now.
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Re: Save the dates confusing people
We're going to the chapel and we gonna get married. We hope you can join us in Portland on July 10, 2010...like the song...but at the top it said save the date. Oh well...it is no big deal, I just can't believe how many women have called me thinking their husbands lost the important part. I thought it was kinda funny!
Oh well, they will understan(I hope) when they get their invites. I did word them "formal invitation to follow".
Ours said:
"Save the Date
We're getting married!
September 18, 2010
Nashville, TN
Formal Invitation to follow"
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Save the date June 6
Inside the pocket there was a bookmark. The bookmark read:
Aron & Amber are getting married June 6, 2010 formal invitation to follow
Everyone loved them, they were all hand made and cute as hell. Bought me lots of time to hand make the invites as well. Now I have lovely custom made invites, STD's and Thank You's. Everyone loved them, no confusion on my end.
The only consusion we've had is that my FMiL asked how formal the wedding was going to be since it said "formal invitation to follow" and thought we were crazy for having a formal wedding.
Perhaps yours were too nice and fancy! :-) We sent a photo magnet 4x6 with a poem and haven't had any confusion. We get lots of comments that our faces are on their fridge. :-D
Here's the whole poem, for those interested:
Please place our faces upon your fiidge door
Reserve for our wedding July 24
Mountains, kilts, bagpipes and Celt fare galore
Your smiles we'll remember forevermore!
Tom and Sheila
July 24, 2010
Georgetown, CO
Formal Invitation to Follow
It is pretty funny that some automatically thought the guys lost part of it
*** 23 days til our wedding day ***
Before I sent mine out I had multiple requests for them and now I can breathe easy knowing the date is on everyone's calendar.
If I had a re-do option, I would insert "formal invitation to follow" on them.
Save the date cards gained popularity when destination weddings were the thing to to, it allowed people to start planning their travel araingements before the invitations arrived. I am having a similar problem and am sticking with this logic.
Here is a REAL confusing one for you though! A friend of mine was planning their wedding and created an "event" on FB and Myspace so they could get everyones addresses, not such a big deal. We received a StD in probably April or May and their wedding was in July. So the end of June rolls around and I casually ask her if my formal invite got lost since it was like 3 weeks before the wedding and I hadn't seen it, and I just wanted to make sure I RSVPed. They responded by saying I had RSVPed. I was beyond confused, and they said yeah, remember, on FB?
The front says:
Keith & Tisha are getting married!.
Save the Date!
And the back says:
You'll receive a more formal invitation, with all the final details, in the coming months. In the meantime, you can visit our wedding website for information on the location and local accommodations.
-Website address here-
Love,
Keith & Tisha
"Yes, I will be there, even if I have to break the bank!"
"If my finances and schedule allow, I willl most definitely be there!" (or something like that)
"I wish I could be there but sadly have to decline"
I dont know if this is the usual, but I guess she wanted an idea of how many people would be coming so she knew how to prepare since its a DW. I dont think that would work with a local wedding though.
Hope that helps!
I'm not putting down STD's, (haha STD's), I just don't think anyone should feel like they have to have them. In my opinion, if you send STD's to everyone who will get an invite, then why not just send the invites earlier instead of later?
Popular etiquette dictates that they be sent out no less than 6 months in advance and usually closer to a year ahead of time. If yours went out closer to your wedding date, that may have been the source of the confusion.
Ours had the date, location, and "invitation to follow" at the bottom. So far we've encountered no confusion, but a LOT of compliments on them!