No RSVPs??? :-/

Miss_Sophia

My FI and I are getting married this October and I have been designing the invitations, rsvps, directions, etc... (I'm a graphic designer) and I've been really working hard on them.

Well we received an invitation for the wedding of one of his law school buddies which is in August. They were great except the text was so small and such a fine serifed font that it was hard to read and there was no RSVP card. My FI called him and his buddy told him they didn't do RSVP cards because, 'no one actually sends them back anyways,'..... No one sends them back?! They don't even mention a wedding website to rsvp at. They are just expecting people to call to rsvp but that just seems rather unorganized to me with different people calling the bride, the MOB, MOG the groom, etc...

Long story short (sorry) is this normal or becoming a trend in sending wedding invitations? I mean if you aren't going to have guests mail an rsvp card back I would think the wedding website route would be great...

Any thoughts?

[Deleted User]

Ditto bbyckes.  I don't think its a wise idea to go without them. I think that is just asking for chaos and more stress.

Yes, tracking down people who don't rsvp is a PITA, but much better than not knowing anything IMO. Plus, most venues need to know for food a few weeks in advance.

unplainjane

i'm not doing rsvp cards mainly because i know most people won't send them back. i will either use a wedding web site and will include my email address for guests to rsvp. and i will clearly mark this on the invitation. i would not force people to call me as that's pretty inconvenient. the last couple of weddings i've been to did not have cards for rsvp. just web site or email. i like this idea as i hate sending cards back anyways. i know our families would just tell us if they are coming and what their menu choice is. and our friends are all about email so they would just email us easily. so to me rsvp cards/postage just waste money and paper.

i do think it's weird that on your invite there was no indication of calling. it is disorganized and they will have trouble figuring out numbers as they will have to follow up with a lot of people.

quotequeen

There are still people in the world who don't use the internet.

mandybear7

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_invites-paper_rsvps-4?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:cd062f89-8272-496a-b0ab-225e1f87acecDiscussion:79bff7a0-db02-4c87-ab55-e921985fdf6cPost:964ea7c8-7805-4760-8042-79e6c7f8dec4">Re: No RSVPs??? :-/</a>:
[QUOTE]i'm not doing rsvp cards mainly because i know most people won't send them back. i will either use a wedding web site and will include my email address for guests to rsvp. and i will clearly mark this on the invitation. i would not force people to call me as that's pretty inconvenient. the last couple of weddings i've been to did not have cards for rsvp. just web site or email. i like this idea as<strong> i hate sending cards back anyways. </strong>i know our families would just tell us if they are coming and what their menu choice is. and our friends are all about email so they would just email us easily. so to me rsvp cards/postage just waste money and paper. i do think it's weird that on your invite there was no indication of calling. it is disorganized and they will have trouble figuring out numbers as they will have to follow up with a lot of people.
Posted by unplainjane[/QUOTE]

How can you <em>hate</em> sending back a card? At most, you have to fill in your name and check a dinner option, then pop it in the mailbox.

ootmother2

It's not disorganized at all, it's the proper (albeit old fashioned) way.

Write on your personal stationery

Ms. Susan Smith
accepts with pleasure (or declines with regret)
the kind invitation of Mr. and Mrs. Jones
for Saturday, the fifth of June