Venting... +1's

saramarieosu

Yikes so I was out to dinner this weekend with 3 girlfriends of mine who I don't see THAT frequently. They were all talking about who they were going to bring to my wedding as their date... uhhh none of them are in relationships whatsoever and all assumed they were getting a +1. We already decided we weren't giving them a +1. Ruined my dinner and all I could think about the entire night. Felt so sad, and couldn't participate in the convo b/c I didn't want to lead them on that they WERE getting a guest nor did I want to spill the beans at that moment. Like what was I supposed to do/say? It was a nice chill dinner with drinks. Didn't want it to get all serious & buzzkill! Ugh!! I should not leave my house before the wedding b/c I just can't face this! We have way too many single friends to give +1 to everyone. FI and I just do not want 20+ random strangers attending our big day! So frustrating!

melntaitt

Clear it up quickly...

tenofcups4me

You should have clarified right then. It's only going to get harder to do it now that they've said they're bringing guests and you didn't correct them. I'd address it with each of them asap.

banana468

So you opted not to speak up as not to lead them on? Exactly what do you think you accomplished with your silence? Address it ASAP, but what will you do if they become romantically linked by the time invitations are sent? Your wedding is over five months away which is more than enough time for them to be in serious relationships.

Zimsgirl26

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_invites-paper_venting-1s?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:cd062f89-8272-496a-b0ab-225e1f87acecDiscussion:7f190adc-289c-4cc8-88cb-156ab6e646f2Post:d991a702-3c57-469c-8a2c-29ee0efe4cca">Re: Venting... +1's</a>:
[QUOTE]So you opted not to speak up as not to lead them on? Exactly what do you think you accomplished with your silence?

Address it ASAP, but what will you do if they become romantically linked by the time invitations are sent? Your wedding is over five months away which is more than enough time for them to be in serious relationships.
Posted by banana468[/QUOTE]


Agreed

punkie1019

 When you talk to them you could always make it seem as though inviting plus ones was somthing that at the time of the get together you were just not sure about. You didn't want to mention at the time because you just weren't sure. Now that you and your FI have looked over the numbers you will unfortunatly not be able to accommadate anyone not in a serrios relationship. You wish you could but due to the fact that you have so many single friends it would just increase the guest list to much. Tell them you hope they understand and will still be able to attend.