We don't live together yet - whose name on the return address?

lmcbeth

 My fiance and I will be moving in together after the wedding.
We are about to send out save the dates when I realized I didn't know whose name we should be putting on the return address labels.
I would prefer to use both of our names but we have some conservative friends who may get offended by the implication of us living together.
Then there was the idea to put his last name. Simply put, then the address.

What should I do?

HisCB

we didnt put names on the return address, just our (shared) address. i wanted it to be a surprise when it was opened.

if one of you will be moving into the other's home, i would use that address. if you are moving someone entirely different then it doesnt matter.

if you put both names people are going to just assume that you chose one address for wedding correspondance. i dont think they will think too much into it.

girl2bewed

You could either skip the name and put just the address. Or you can put both your first names, thats what I did for my rsvp's. You can also just put his last name or both of your last names.

jmkes

It's just an address, my advice is don't read too much into it.  I doubt very many people will either.  I'm in an unusual situation where we don't live together and I'm selling my house.  I'll be living with his sister until we are married and then we will be living in Fort Worth (where he lives now).  Since the timing is so unpredictable (when my house will be sold, when we will find our home in Ft Worth) I just put my name on his sister's address.  In the end it's just a means to get your RSVPs/undeliverable invites returned to you.

kmjarvey

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_invites-paper_dont-live-together-yet-name-return-address?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:cd062f89-8272-496a-b0ab-225e1f87acecDiscussion:8131a062-492e-4ecb-9478-8120b4691459Post:5e4d726d-7a73-4c49-856d-77ee77d9dcec">Re: We don't live together yet - whose name on the return address?</a>:
[QUOTE]It's just an address, my advice is don't read too much into it.  Posted by jmkes[/QUOTE]

Agree. Are you worried about the return address for the outside of the envolope or the address that's going on the reply card. I had a bunch of address lables left from my high school graduation party invites (long time ago!) with my name and parents address and they matched my invites so they went on the outer envelopes. Then I wrote out just my name on the RSVP return.I'd just make sure the RSVPs are going to whoever will be organizing the final count, etc.

lilmizdncnqueen

I believe it should be the Bride's address on all wedding correspondence if you are not living together.