Registry

DOtoBride

I have read and agree that it is rude to put registry info in wedding invites. Our guests are coming from all over the country and from other countries. 250 guests, most of whom I have never spoken to and who don't know any of my family. We do have a website (and have the website on our accommodation card) that lists the registries.

I have seen other people use the registry inserts from Target and Bed, Bath, & Beyond before in wedding invities. I assume this is just as rude. Do we still assume that most people will rely on the website and word of mouth (not coming from me or my family)??

Thanks!

hrtucker

Unfortunately, yes. I understand where you're coming from, but those inserts are just for shower invitations apparently.  I would not mind getting one in an invitation, but generally that is considered poor etiquette.

quotequeen

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[QUOTE]Do we still assume that most people will rely on the website and word of mouth (not coming from me or my family)?? Thanks!
Posted by DOtoBride[/QUOTE]

The word of mouth can come from you or your family - the key is that it only comes IF ASKED.  You should not be bringing up gifts at all, because you never assume that somebody is going to get you a gift, as they are not required.  And, they are not obligated to purchase from your registry.  If they want to know where you are registered, they will look at your website to find out, or they will ask somebody who would know (often your parents).  If they don't want to know, neither you nor anybody else should bring it up.

MyNameIsNot

If people want to know, they will look on the website or they will ask.  

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

Honestly, I've found out about registries second and third hand before. I've asked someone who I know is going to the wedding, who found out from the groom's parents, etc. They can also google your names.

Plus, really, what's the worst that can happen? They won't get something off your registry? Then they'll get you another gift, or cash, or maybe no gift if they are traveling a great distance. Oh well. It isn't really the end of the world. I know you probably have a lot of things you love on the registry, but that's why most stores have a completion discount.

mags0607

I would not put the inserts in the wedding invitation. I think having your wedding website with the information is sufficient. Chances are, if they don't look on the website for registry information, and don't feel comfortable asking a family member, than you will proably get cash or gift cards. If we have to travel, or I can't find registry info, the couple is usually getting a visa gift card from me.

LAGallerina

I agree, putting any mention of the registry in the wedding invitation is in bad form. Although ALL of my friends did it. All of my friends also failed to send a thank you note.Yes- I wanted to spend $50 on a coffee maker while I'm eating top ramen and scraping by in college

The website and word of mouth if sufficent for the registry.

FutureMrsM1

I don't want it to be tacky at all to include the registry info in my invites. My only issue is that putting it on a website is tough when I have family and friends-I know it's hard to believe-but they aren't computer savy! And, alot of family has said it is just one more step they have to make. I don't want guests to feel obligated, I just want all the info to be easily accessible if they need it. UGH. What do I do?!

aerinpegadrak

Of course those stores give you those inserts; they want as many people as possible to buy from their store.  Never take etiquette advice from people who are trying to get money from you.  The proper place for those inserts is the recycling bin.