Not Inviting Coworkers

mdupon70997

We paid for 150 guests but our venue can hold up to 300. Our guest list right now is exactly 150 people deep. We haven't sent out our invitations yet. FI and I decided that in order to stay within our 150 guest limit we would not invite coworkers. I was so relieved when we finalized our guest list, but now I'm regretting not inviting my coworkers. I've worked with these ladies for the past 5 years and I talk to several of them outside of work. I feel even worse because I've talked with them about my wedding on several occasions. I never told them they would be invited, but they know that the wedding's coming up and they ask me about it often. What to do? If I invite them it will be about 14 extra people and my venue charges 30 per person over our guest limit. I don't want to hurt their feelings by not inviting them, but I don't want to pay an extra 500.

AddieCake

If you don't want to or can't afford to pay the extra for them, then don't invite them. Only you can decide if you really want them there and are willing to pay the extra for them or not. 

meg2marryshane

I'm pretty sure not 150 of 150 invited will RSVP yes.  I would go ahead and invite your co-workers, or there will be some very hurt feelings.  If you are going to continue to work there, it's well worth the money!!!

mlg78

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_invites-paper_not-inviting-coworkers?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:cd062f89-8272-496a-b0ab-225e1f87acecDiscussion:8b1a167f-0021-4acd-88fe-8d8fe839ad7aPost:308e62ce-c8e8-4a86-9580-aa736e8053dc">Re: Not Inviting Coworkers</a>:
[QUOTE]I'm pretty sure not 150 of 150 invited will RSVP yes.  I would go ahead and invite your co-workers, or there will be some very hurt feelings.  If you are going to continue to work there, it's well worth the money!!!
Posted by meg2marryshane[/QUOTE]

<div>Always count on 100% attendance.</div><div>
</div><div>Is $500 worth the friendships you've created at work?  Only you can determine that...  For me, it is...</div>

nikole712

As one of the PP's said, if you can afford it and truly want them there for you on your wedding day, I would definitely say invite them. If it is outside your budget to include them, then don't.

mdupon70997

We are counting on 100% attendance just to be safe. I'm  trying to decide if I need to take a second look at my guest list.

Andama08

I'm having a silmiar dilemma. My coworkers are aware of my wedding and date etc. but I haven't told any of them they were invited. My plan is to send out all my wedding invites as planned and based on RSVPs I'll send out invites to my "B" list. Another reason I've been debating about inviting them is because my wedding is on a Friday afternoon during working hours and they would still be at work, I don't think we could all request off lol.

NYCMercedes

Mdupon, I feel your pain. If the 14 includes the SO's, I think it would be worth $420 to keep a congenial work atmosphere. Most likely you will get a few regrets.

NYCMercedes

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[QUOTE]I'm having a silmiar dilemma. My coworkers are aware of my wedding and date etc. but I haven't told any of them they were invited. My plan is to send out all my wedding invites as planned and based on RSVPs I'll send out invites to my "B" list. Another reason I've been debating about inviting them is because my wedding is on a Friday afternoon during working hours and they would still be at work, I don't think we could all request off lol.
Posted by Andama08[/QUOTE]

Have you ever heard B lists are rude?