A little background: My parents divorced when I was very young, my dad is remarried, but my mom is not. I've had to have two of everything: two birthday parties every year, two christmas', and two graduation parties. It used to stress me out, and I used to wonder if they would ask me to have two weddings...
So here we are 100 days before my (one) wedding. I have designed my own invitations and worded them EXACTLY the way I want them:
dad and mom & grooms dad and mom request the pleasure of your company at the marriage of their children.......
My step-mom has asked to see the sample invitation I had printed. I don't want ANY hurt feelings, but I did not include her because for once in my life I want my mom and dad to be acknowledged as having me, the bride, together. I want my step mom included on EVERYTHING else and introduced at the reception as one of my parents. I just want these invitations with my mom's name and my dad's name and my FI's mom and dad's names.
I wanted to explain myself and that I didn't want hurt feelings before I let my dad and stepmom see the invites. My dad doesn't want to hear it. I still have time to change the invitations if needed, but I'm sure this is how I want them. Am I completely wrong for not including her on the invitation? Is this bad etiquette?
P.S. we're not super close, but I don't not like her. She and my dad keep their money separate, she's not helping pay for anything or helping plan. These aren't the reasons I'm not including her, I just thought people would ask how involved she is.