I was raised Catholic and have been baptized and confirmed etc.My fiance is from Utah and was baptized LDS. Though his immediate family does not practice the faith- he still has the moral backgrounds behind it etc.
We are doing a "religious based "ceremony in a non-denominatal chapel. (formerly a baptist church). There are going to be two catholic readings and all kinds of tings about God and Jesus and the Lord and blessings and what not. Our officiant is a Reverend who was an ordained Roman Catholic priest during the 1980s. He and his wife now are officiants.
We are mostly basing our ceremony around Catholicism, and using a few pieces from the LDS church (for example, in LDS they believe you are married for all eternity and not just until "death do you part"), we are trying to integrate our religions- but since I am the more practicing and our children will be raised Catholic our ceremony has strong Catholic undertones.
My parents this past weekend through a huge fit, that left me in tears and my parents arguing. They said that I have totally turned my back on how I was raised and that I was baptised and confirmed and so I should be making the next "sacrament". I will admit that in more recent years (mostly after hte passing of both my grandparents since I was engaged), I have come "back" to the church a bit- but I was ccertainly not a stand up catholic all these years previously. I never went to church and neither did my parents except every once in a while. i'm not sure why they have this sudden feeling of being SO faithful, especially my dad. But I'm going to guess it has a lot to do with the fact that my grandmother passed away a few weeks ago and they are feeling that they want to know I am "ok" in the cahtolic faith for the rest of my life.
Well now my parents have demanded that we have a family friend who is a priest come to our ceremony to bless our marriage. They have said things like if I wasn't marrying my fiance I would have a "church "wedding and basically implied things to make him feel like its HIS fault that all this is happening.
After basically crying and agruing with them about how this is "our ceremony about two faiths and two people joining" to whhich i heard "is he forcing you not to get married in a church".... it seemd to fall on dead ears.
I spoke to fiance and he felt ok with having this Priest come and bless our marriage in the catholic church. And now, we have to invite this priest (that I am not super fond of) to our wedding reception etc...
i felt ok with the decision and i knew it was what my parents wanted and in the back of my mind I was happy to see that we were going to have the marriage blessed in the church (we were going to do this after the wedding ANYWAY at our own church).
Now my mom is second guestting it, she said she spoke to my aunt (who is my godmother) and my aunt said that if it was a LDS ceremony she could see us asking to bring in someone from the Catholic Church but since we are already trying to accomodate both relgiions and there is an emphasis on mine- its starting to look pushy to bring in a Priest to the wedding...and it also kind of discredits my fiance. And my aunt said the key words to my mom "what do THEY want. they are the ones getting married"...
So now my mom hasn't called the Priest yet. I am 4 weeks out from my wedding- I have to make arraganements for him etc, and even ask our officants if its ok- next week when I meet with them.
So now I am more confused than ever.
My fiance and I were all set on the Priest idea, now I think my mom is starting to "see" our side of things- and now she is back peddling. I know it will make my dad happy and I feel torn between my "family" and my "new family"....
I don't really know what i am asking here- not really anything
i just wanted to get it all out
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