Wedding Invitations & Paper

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  • itzMSitzMS member
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    edited February 2013
    There isn't a way to do this.

    The children aren't getting married and exchanging vows, only you and FI are.


    Obviously I don't know your situation, but if I were the childrens' birth mom, I wouldn't permit their names on your wedding invitation. It's too intrusive.
  • Yeah...no. Children should not be "hosting" or be a part of the ceremony in this way.  A wedding is for you and your groom. 
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  • What itsMZ said -- the children aren't getting married, only and your fiance.  And if they are not adults, they can't host a wedding.
  • Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    edited February 2013
    Yeah, children of the bride or groom are not listed on invitations.

    As much as you want to "include" them, your wedding is about you and your FI becoming a couple.  Becoming "family" with your respective children is a by-event, not the purpose of the wedding.

    Also, I have to admit that I'm not crazy about the wording

    "invite you to share the beginning of our new life together
    when we exchange marriage vows".

    It's redundant, as everyone knows that weddings are about "the beginning of your new life together" and that you'll be "exchanging marriage vows." 

    Or it can be confusing.  Miss Manners once responded to a letter in her Guide To Excruiciatingly Correct Behavior where someone got an invitation worded like this and erroneously believed it was for the reception only.
  • Leave the kids off of the invitation.  They are not getting married or hosting, so they shouldn't be on there.
  • OP, there was no reason to delete your post. 
    What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14
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  • I simply wanted wording advice. Since, I didn't receive any... I deleted it. I'll ask the boys what they want, which is what I should have done to begin with. Thanks!
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_invites-paper_invitation-wording-to-include-grooms-children?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:cd062f89-8272-496a-b0ab-225e1f87acecDiscussion:ba4ccdf0-2a23-4ef6-a108-98b9125a0641Post:688ca230-db0d-4b49-a4f0-2b4130b54162">Re: .</a>:
    [QUOTE]I simply wanted wording advice. Since, I didn't receive any... I deleted it. I'll ask the boys what they want, which is what I should have done to begin with. Thanks!
    Posted by MrsOden[/QUOTE]

    CMG did give you wording advice, along with all the other ladies.  Leave the kids off the invite. 
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    [QUOTE]I simply wanted wording advice. Since, I didn't receive any... I deleted it. I'll ask the boys what they want, which is what I should have done to begin with. Thanks!
    Posted by MrsOden[/QUOTE]

    <div>People telling you it's not appropriate to include the children on the invitation IS wording advice. It wasn't the advice you wanted to hear, but it was advice, and it was good advice b/c it will keep you from embarrassing yourself in front of friends and family.</div>
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    [QUOTE]Yeah, children of the bride or groom are not listed on invitations. As much as you want to "include" them, your wedding is about you and your FI becoming a couple.  Becoming "family" with your respective children is a by-event, not the purpose of the wedding. Also, I have to admit that I'm not crazy about the wording "invite you to share the beginning of our new life together when we exchange marriage vows". It's redundant, as everyone knows that weddings are about "the beginning of your new life together" and that you'll be "exchanging marriage vows."  Or it can be confusing.  Miss Manners once responded to a letter in her Guide To Excruiciatingly Correct Behavior where someone got an invitation worded like this and erroneously believed it was for the reception only.
    Posted by Jen4948[/QUOTE]
    I completely agree with the redundancy. I was trying to find something a little different. I think we'll probably go with the standard "together with our families" even though we are hosting and paying for everything. :) Thanks for the advice.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Invitation wording to include groom's children?? : I completely agree with the redundancy. I was trying to find something a little different. I think we'll probably go with the standard "together with our families" even though we are hosting and paying for everything. :) Thanks for the advice.
    Posted by MrsOden[/QUOTE]

    You're welcome.  But bear in mind that who is paying is not relevant to how invitations get worded, as the financial arrangements are none of the guests' business.

    What is relevant is, who is handling the tasks of "point persons" - that is, issuing the invitations, receiving replies, greeting guests at the wedding, making sure their needs are taken care of, etc.?  Whoever's doing these things is the "host" even if they're not contributing financially.  Contributing financially is not the same as "hosting."
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_invites-paper_invitation-wording-to-include-grooms-children?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:cd062f89-8272-496a-b0ab-225e1f87acecDiscussion:ba4ccdf0-2a23-4ef6-a108-98b9125a0641Post:b811a9ad-640b-4362-84a6-ef9838757a6e">Re: Invitation wording to include groom's children??</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Invitation wording to include groom's children?? : You're welcome.  But bear in mind that who is paying is not relevant to how invitations get worded, as the financial arrangements are none of the guests' business. What is relevant is, who is handling the tasks of "point persons" - that is, issuing the invitations, receiving replies, greeting guests at the wedding, making sure their needs are taken care of, etc.?  Whoever's doing these things is the "host" even if they're not contributing financially.  Contributing financially is not the same as "hosting."
    Posted by Jen4948[/QUOTE]

    Thank you. Technically, we are hosting, but I do have a planner to take care of "day of" needs.
  • What is up with people deleting their OPs today?!

    Anyway, the children really do not need to be on the invite. The wedding is about you & your FI. I would just put "together with their families" or something like that.
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