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Invitation wording for vow renewal
My husband and I were married in the courthouse and are now having a big wedding for the family. Is it OK to put traditional wording on the invitation or do we need to specify that it is a vow renewal? Noone came to our courthouse wedding--it was just the two of us.
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Re: Invitation wording for vow renewal
Mr. Father of the Bride
requests the honor of your presence as
My name
and
Husband's name
renew their wedding vows on
Date
at
Time
I Googled it and search returns traditional wedding invite wording :-/
Together with their families (you could omit this line)
Your name
and
H's name
request the honor of your presence
as they renew their vows
date
time
place
Because you have shared in our lives with your love and friendship, the pleasure of your company is requested at the reaffirmation of the wedding vows of
Jane and John Smith
Location
Date
Time
Good luck!
And yeah my Dad is hosting it and yes I am wearing a dress and having attendants because we are having a ceremony as well as the reception.
[QUOTE]thesequel--thanks! I like that one alot! And yeah my Dad is hosting it and yes I am wearing a dress and having attendants because we are having a ceremony as well as the reception.
Posted by iluvmy0341[/QUOTE]
<div>No problem. Good luck and have fun! :)</div>
[QUOTE]I say go for it on wearing a gown, having a full ceremony & a reception. It is your & your husband's vow renewal, you should do it how you want. My husband & I are renewing ours next May on our 5th anniversary & are including our sons this time. I am wearing a dress as well, but this time it is going to be a tea length wedding dress instead of a full gown like I wore the first time.
Posted by mommybrim[/QUOTE]
A big gown isn't appropriate for a renewal. It isn't appropriate etiquette to wear one
[QUOTE]thesequel--thanks! I like that one alot! And yeah <strong>my Dad is hosting it and yes I am wearing a dress and having attendants because we are having a ceremony</strong> as well as the reception.
Posted by iluvmy0341[/QUOTE]
You've already had a ceremony. You're going to look silly pretending to be a bride.
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Read more: Vows: How to Renew Yours - TheKnot.com http://wedding.theknot.com/wedding-planning/wedding-ceremony/articles/how-to-renew-your-wedding-vows.aspx#ixzz1LkcSwfiq
[QUOTE]I am a very firm believer that, no matter what, it is the couple's choice on how they wish to renew their vows. No one has any right to tell a couple how to run their wedding and/or renewel ceremony.
Posted by mommybrim[/QUOTE]
As adults they can certainly do what they want. However if they throw etiquette to the wind, they need to accept the social repercussions of those choices.
[QUOTE]I found this and thought that it was appropriate for this situation. Even TheKnot says that you can have your big wedding celebration for your vow renewal... Some couples decide to renew their vows to finally have the big wedding celebration they couldn't afford when they first got married. Maybe you recently went through a traumatic time together (say, one of you was dangerously ill) and you want to reaffirm your commitment to each other. Or, you've made it to 10, 25, or 50 years together and you want the world to know that you'd do it all over again if you could. Read more: Vows: How to Renew Yours - TheKnot.com <a href="http://wedding.theknot.com/wedding-planning/wedding-ceremony/articles/how-to-renew-your-wedding-vows.aspx#ixzz1LkcSwfiq" rel='nofollow'>http://wedding.theknot.com/wedding-planning/wedding-ceremony/articles/how-to-renew-your-wedding-vows.aspx#ixzz1LkcSwfiq</a>
Posted by mommybrim[/QUOTE]
Well, of COURSE, the Knot says it's okay. What is the reason for The Knot's existence? To continue to sell wedding stuff. I would recommend never taking advice from an entity that stands to gain financially from taking their "advice".
Do you really think that an arm of the wedding industry would say "No, it's not appropriate to have all the 'wedding stuff' at a vow renewal"?
For the OP: you're married. What you're having is NOT a wedding, and any invitations should reflect that this is not a wedding. Congratulations on being a married woman.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Invitation wording for vow renewal : A big gown isn't appropriate for a renewal. It isn't appropriate etiquette to wear one
Posted by banana468[/QUOTE]
But then again...don't people say it's not appropriate or proper etiquette for a 2nd time bride to wear a big gown...and I think it totally is. And wasn't there a time when it wasn't proper etiquette to wear white if you were not a virgin...and no one care about tht anymore...I think as long as you are not rude some etiquette can go out the window.
[QUOTE]Who says it isn't etiqette to wear a gown for a renewal? <strong>If you get married in a court house, that isn't a wedding, thats simply getting married</strong>. My husband and I are planning a vow renewal ceremony with wedding and reception for our 15th Anniversary nexg year. When we got "Married" it was at a court house with he and I and the judge. <strong> How can you call that a wedding?
</strong>Posted by ChrisF75[/QUOTE]
You call it a wedding because, by definition, a wedding takes place WHEN A COUPLE IS MARRIED.
A courthouse wedding was exactly that - a WEDDING. To say otherwise is an insult to the thousands of brides who choose to have a courthouse wedding as their only wedding.
[QUOTE]Who says it isn't etiqette to wear a gown for a renewal? If you get married in a court house, that isn't a wedding, thats simply getting married. My husband and I are planning a vow renewal ceremony with wedding and reception for our 15th Anniversary nexg year. When we got "Married" it was at a court house with he and I and the judge. How can you call that a wedding?
Posted by ChrisF75[/QUOTE]
<div>So...according to your logic you're not REALLY married. You're only kinda sorta "married." To which I ask...what are you celebrating your 15th anniversary of? I'm sorry that you were clearly disappointed that your "marriage" was strictly about the love between you and your husband and not a huge party, but that's the choice you made. And it's actually quite insulting to view a couthouse wedding as not being valid. One of my best friends had a courthouse wedding and she wouldn't change it for the world.</div><div>
</div><div>You do not need to have a wedding (in the sense of many guests at a church/temple/reception hall followed by a blowout reception) in order to get married. However, you do need to get married in order to have a wedding. It's sorta like the difference between a rectangle and a square...a square is a rectangle, but a rectangle is not always a square.</div>
Oh my goodness...some people need to get over themselves. My husband and I are renewing our vows for our 15th anniversary this year and I am SOOO wearing a dress...and I am SOOO having my sisters stand with me, and I SOOO don't care about the "etiquette" of the entire thing. And if by "accepting the social repercussions" it means that I won't be a degrading miserable up tight person like banana...then I am COMPLETELY FINE with it!! Geesh...you have too much time on your hands if you have nothing better to do than scold grown women who have a God (and American) given right to do whatever they darn well please.
[QUOTE]You can have a great renewal of vows but it should NOT be an attempt to recreate the wedding.
Posted by banana468[/QUOTE]
Why don't you get a life and give your ettiquite lessons to someone who cares. You've apparently been married for awhile so why are you still posting on this site? Everyone deserves their day to shine no matter when they signed that piece of paper. I'm sure you make your husband REAL happy, and judging by that baby's face you make your children REAL happy also... perfect life you got there eh? go fly a kite
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Invitation wording for vow renewal : You are not a bride. You are a married woman. You only get one wedding, and you have had yours.
Posted by CMGr[/QUOTE]
You have no right to say who should or should not wear wedding dress, she is having a wedding, she is a bride and she gets to wear the dress, to go out of your way more than once to state your ridiculous opinion is completely unneccessary and rude.
It is very common and acceptable for BRIDES who did not have a traditional ceremony to were a wedding dress when they have their "big" wedding.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Invitation wording for vow renewal : As adults they can certainly do what they want. However if they throw etiquette to the wind, they need to accept the social repercussions of those choices.
Posted by banana468[/QUOTE]
I'm willing to bet that those that choose to have a vow renewal to their liking don't really care too much about "social repercussions." I'm sure they care a lot more about their happiness than the rest of the worlds idea of what they should or should not do, and quite frankly it really is none of your business how someone decides to throw their party! It isn't meant to benefit you. Grow up.