Is something wrong with me?

simplestlife

We just got our invitations today. I don't hate them, but I don't really like them. They were part of our package deal for our wedding, so we had to choose from one particular company. When we went to pick them out, I wasn't crazy about any of them, so I let my FI pick them out.

I actually really like the design on the front, but the paper seems really thin, and the envelope liner doesn't go all the way inside so I can see the invitation through the envelope from the outside. And the response cards are weird too. I can't explain it in a way that make sense without seeing them, but it just adds to my overall feeling of disappointment. 

My FI was all excited about the invites and I just shrugged my shoulders. We're going to have to use them because I can't afford to buy new invites, but he was really hurt that I wasn't all teary eyed that I was seeing our invites for the first time. I feel like a jerk. I just know that the invite sets the tone for the wedding, and our invite looks cheap to me.

I feel like I need to find a way to shake it off and act excited anyway to make him happy. 

simplestlife

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_invites-paper_something-wrong?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:cd062f89-8272-496a-b0ab-225e1f87acecDiscussion:cb3a0e3e-33e0-4bbe-9194-b1b78370460dPost:eadc7787-7ee5-441b-8f18-deec16570b37">Re: Is something wrong with me?</a>:
[QUOTE]It's okay not to be excited! I'm sorry that you're disappointed by your invites - I love stationery, so I know I'd be really disappointed if my invites weren't what I expected. There are ways to fix it, though. If you have it in your budget, you could mat your invitations on a larger piece of cardstock that coordinates color wise, then buy larger size envelopes to match. Or even on the same color cardstock as the invite is made out of, and just cut it to the same size and make sure the edges are all adhered to the cardstock so that it's not noticeable that you've added the cardstock. It's really easy to do something like that, if you're willing to spend the money (and it wouldn't be too much more money, depending on how many invites you are sending). The liner should definitely go all the way down - are you positive it's not a mistake/defect that the liner doesn't line the entire envelope? I'd call the company and let them know about this, because that totally defeats the purpose of the liner. If you need help, PM me - I used to design wedding invites, so I have a little knowledge of how to assemble them from scratch :)
Posted by cebrady89[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Thank you! I think the liner isn't meant to go all the way down. The girl who helped us pick them out mentioned that some do that, I just thought that ours did. </div><div>
</div><div>Thank you for your suggestions! I'm definitely going to looking into matting them onto card stock.

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Avion22

Honestly?  It's just paper.   It's okay not to be teary-eyed when you see the invitation to your own wedding.  It doesn't make you a bad person.

If you're really not happy about your invitations, then look at Vistaprint -- they have awesome deals, and you might be able to afford to get new ones.

Otherwise, just go with what you have.  As long as everything is spelled correctly, then they sound fine to send out.

meganb1977

If you have the money to spend, I was also going to suggest having your invitations matted or backed in a coordinating color.

krizzo17

I'm still not sure if I'm thrilled with my invites, and I made them myself. Every time I start to stress about it, I remember that honestly, in 6 months everyone will have thrown them away, except 1 or 2 that my family saves.

simplestlife

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[QUOTE]I'm still not sure if I'm thrilled with my invites, and I made them myself. Every time I start to stress about it, <strong>I remember that honestly, in 6 months everyone will have thrown them away, except 1 or 2 that my family saves.</strong>
Posted by krizzo17[/QUOTE]

<div>This is what I tell myself so that I don't get upset. Right now I'm just ambivalent, but as my FI gets his feelings hurt because of my ambivalence, I find myself being pushed towards being upset. As long as I don't have to think about it, I can not care.</div>

aragx6

We're having a designer on Etsy design our whole paper suite and she just sent me the first draft of our STDs on Wednesday and I was initially really disappointed. My FI and I sat down together to write out where improvements could be made and as I looked at it I began to like it more. Don't worry about it too much. I think the idea to back them with a coordinating paper is a great one -- a little elbow grease and you're good. it wouldn't be at all expensive.

And envelope liners that don't line the whole envelope? That's just weird. You could, if you have the time and inclination, certainly look ito buying some new envelopes to line yourself.

hz80408

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_invites-paper_something-wrong?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:cd062f89-8272-496a-b0ab-225e1f87acecDiscussion:cb3a0e3e-33e0-4bbe-9194-b1b78370460dPost:7f8932b2-31f3-441b-b413-7a7201501e01">Re: Is something wrong with me?</a>:
[QUOTE]Hmm, I've never heard of a liner that doesn't actually line the envelope - it's an easy fix either way :) Good luck!
Posted by cebrady89[/QUOTE]

From the majority of liners I've seen, they typically don't go all the way down the envelope. 

Although, obviously it's not good if you can see through the envelope and tell where the liner ends!

teralicious

I know you are disappointed in the invites but I really do not think many people pay that much attention to them. I have received maybe 3 invites to weddings in the past month, I remember one of the invites having a blue ribbon and I think it was cream paper but the other two I cannot recall at all, I just took out the reply card and tossed the invite in the garbage. I have seen envelope liners that line the entire envelope but most go about half way down. I doubt guests will notice. I am not totally thrilled with my invite either, I think the paper could be thicker but at the end of the day I would rather use that money to order new ones on something else. My FMIL has her invite and FSILs invite engraved on this piece of glass, it is really nice. I am thinking of getting ours done that way too, for a keepsake.

RamonaFlowers

I actually really liked my invitations (I used one of the DIY kits from Michael's), and I still didn't get all "teary" over them. 

I'm having a really hard time figuring out why your FI is so butthurt that you didn't throw a parade over them. That may make me a jerk, but as long as all the information is correct on them, what the big deal? It's just paper. Seriously.