1 - Inviting adults who live with their parents = separate invites? 2- stamp with every RSVP card?

mlisa04

Question 1: I have previously heard that everyone over the age of 18 is supposed to receive their own invite. Does this apply in families where they adult child stilll lives with the parents? Like I have 2 cousins who both live with their parents and they're like in their 30s.... Do I have to send 3 when I could just send 1?

Question 2: Our RSVPs have an option where the guest can RSVP online, or you may do the traditional way of mailing it. I figured it would help to get more RSVPs if people had more than one option. So, Do I still have to include a stamp for every RSVP card? Could I maybe just include a stamp in the envelope in case they don't even use the envelope? (like if they want to RSVP online?) My first thought was to have everyone RSVP online but my Grandma vetoed me because she said old people want to send them in lol.

smfitz12

I sent each household their own invite even if there was someone over 18 living there. I addressed them like this:
     Jane and John Doe
            Jenni Doe
     1234 Deer Road
      City, WI 56782

Jane and John being the mom and dad, Jenni being the adult living at home.

LeiselEB

You should absolutely send adult children their own invitations, no matter who they live with. I have the same situation in my family, but everyone got their own invitations. 

I personally don't understand the point of online RSVPs and traditional paper RSVPs. If you're paying for the stamps and the paper, just have people use them and mail you their RSVP. That said, put a stamp on every single response card/envelope. Don't just include a stamp in the envelope. 

librababy

I am doing 3 ways for people to RSVP: wedding website, email and 2 phone numbers. The mail system here sucks so it makes no point doing traditional RSVP's. 

I am sending invites per family. So for adult members who still live with the parents, I am putting wording it:

John Doe and family (kids are invited as well).

Only one case where an adult still licing at home will get their own invite: my friend who is also a bm just moved in with her mom. She gets her own.

LeiselEB

PPs: If you were 20,30, however many years old and were invited to a wedding with your name tacked on to your parents invites, wouldn't you feel like a child? That's the message it sends.

Librababy - we all have the same mail system in the US, and of course there are issues...but there are issues with wedding websites (especially TK), with emails, with voicemails, etc. There's no fool proof method of RSVPs. But I still believe that one option is better than several.

OP, I still think you need to send everyone their own invite if they are over the age of 18. No matter where they live. If you're including RSVP cards for guests to send back, they need to have stamps on them. 

bridezillatobe2009

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[QUOTE]PPs: <strong>If you were 20,30, however many years old and were invited to a wedding with your name tacked on to your parents invites, wouldn't you feel like a child?</strong> That's the message it sends. Librababy - we all have the same mail system in the US, and of course there are issues...but there are issues with wedding websites (especially TK), with emails, with voicemails, etc. There's no fool proof method of RSVPs. But I still believe that one option is better than several. OP, I still think you need to send everyone their own invite if they are over the age of 18. No matter where they live. If you're including RSVP cards for guests to send back, they need to have stamps on them. 
Posted by LeiselEB[/QUOTE]

lol.

MyNameIsNot

1)  The correct thing to do is to send a seperate invitation to everyone over 18, no matter where they live.   

2)  Include the stamp.  

kristinanddan

The two PPs are incorrect - anyone over 18 gets their own invite. 

Every rsvp envelope should have a stamp.

beth34608

I agree also. Everyone over 18 gets their own invite, and all reply envelopes should have a stamp on them.