Two different invitations?

tweetiej13

My fiance and I have been debating on whether or not to have the parents names on the invites, and he suggested for the ones he sends out he'll have the parents names and the ones I send out, no parents named. They are not hosting the wedding, but his parents have paid for a large amount but we have paid for an equally large amount! And my parents have helped where they can, but not much. But I can't leave them off of it if his parents are on it. So is it weird to have two different invitations? His other reasoning behind it is that out of town guests will not recognize his name or mine, but they will recognize the parents names. I really don't want two different invitations but neither one of us will back down! Forget bridezilla, i'm turning into the incredible hulk bride!

Simply Fated

I don't understand why you can't have both of your parents names on all the invitations. It doesn't have to be about who paid.. and especially who paid more..
It can just be about your parents... the people who raised you, probably gave birth to you...

amagwire

Put both sets of parents on.  I can't imagine how incredibly confusing it would be to have to separate invitations by family.

squirrly

We are paying for the wedding.  His parents are paying for the RD.  My mom has given me some money for my dress and the flowers, and I think my dad is planning a nice gift (they're married but has his/hers/theirs accounts and dad is in charge of big spending decisions out of "theirs".)

Our invitations said:

Miss Squirrly Girl Bride
and
Captain Squirrly Boy Groom

Together with their parents
Mr. and Mrs. Bride Dad last
Mr. and Mrs. Groom Dad Last
request the pleasure of your company
at their wedding

And that's what we would have used no matter who offered what money.

tweetiej13

Thanks for all your help everybody! We finally agreed on this, which is a suggestion I read on another board

Bride
Daughter of mom and dad lastname

and
 
Groom
Son of mom and dad lastname

Request The Honor Of Your Presence
As Christ Unites Them To Become One

squirrly

tweetie, the thing is that your parents shouldn't come between you and your FI at your wedding or on your invitation.  Figuratively and literally.  It makes it look like being your parents daughter is more important than being your FI's future wife.  I understand what you're going for, but maybe think about it one more time?

Kristin789

Squirrly is right - you really can't have a line of text after the bride's name.

If you are deadset against starting the invitation with your parents' names as the hosts of the wedding, which they ARE no matter how much or how little they are paying for, I'll suggest that you put parents' names at the bottom, like this:

Parents of bride:  Mr. and Mrs. John Doe
Parents of groom:  Mr. and Mrs. Ralph Clark

I've only seen that once, when there were specific circumstances why the bride's parents' names really should not have been on the top line because they were against the marriage totally and refused to host it, but they were coming and they were contributing.

JanoBean75

Tweetie, why can't you do a traditional invitation with a "son of" line?

Mr. and Mrs. Bride's Parents
request the honor of your presence (no caps here)
at the marriage of their daughter
Tweetie Middle Name
to
Mr. Groom Middle Last
son of Mr. and Mrs. Groom's Parents
Saturday, the twenty-seventh of March
Two thousand and ten
Church
City, State

squirrly

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[QUOTE]Squirrly is right - you really can't have a line of text after the bride's name. If you are deadset against starting the invitation with your parents' names as the hosts of the wedding, <strong>which they ARE no matter how much or how little they are paying </strong>for, I'll suggest that you put parents' names at the bottom, like this: Parents of bride:  Mr. and Mrs. John Doe Parents of groom:  Mr. and Mrs. Ralph Clark I've only seen that once, when there were specific circumstances why the bride's parents' names really should not have been on the top line because they were against the marriage totally and refused to host it, but they were coming and they were contributing.
Posted by Kristin789[/QUOTE]


Kristin, I don't know how many times I've repeated this, but I know you've never, not once, come back to engage in conversation.  This is an asinine point of view.  Many brides' parents do NOTHING to host the wedding, regardless of what they're paying or not paying.  They don't greet guests.  They don't make plans.  They don't hand out tips.  They show up, watch the ceremony, eat, drink, go home.  That's not a host or hostess!  Why are you so completely unwilling to comprehend this?

What about when they don't even attend?  Or are deceased?  Are they still the host and hostess then?  Because the way you state things so absolutely, you'd think that's the case.