Ok, we started this planning with a set limit of 150 guests. My in-laws to be were given 50, my fiance and I were given 50 and my mother was given 50. My mother is paying for the wedding and I have huge family, which required her to have 70 on her list. My in-laws asked if they could invite more then 50 so we told them "60, give or take a couple". My future mother-in-law and I had a lot of discussions on invitation ediquitte and how many to invite. When she gave me her list, she left off her immediate family and didn't include guests for the singles. That made her list 61. If you include all the people she should have invited and left out her list is 69. I think she was being sneaky and trying to squeeze in extra people on my mom's dime. My fiance just thinks that she is ditzy and doesn't understand that we have a limited budget. Is it unreasonable for me to nicely ask her to trim her list? My mother is not inviting a lot of her friends because she has to make room for family. His mother is inviting her Brother's friends. Am I wrong here? (if we stick to her 60, we will be at 160 for the wedding and hoping 10 people don't show)