Inviting CoWorkers?

GreenPenguins

I work in a small office where everyone knows everyone. I'm closer to some of my coworkers than others and that gives me a bit of a dilemma. If FI's job transfer doesn't happen before our wedding, I imgine there would be no way to invite some coworkers and not others without creating major awkwardness. If the transfer does happen and I'm not working with this group everyday anymore, I would only invite the 3 or 4 people I truly want.

The question is, then, if I am still here by the time I have to send invites, am I more or less stuck inviting everyone or is there a tactful way to only have a few?

Summer2011Bride

I always think inviting co-workers depends on office dynamics. I work at a school with 70 other people. I only invited the 4 co-workers I socialize with outside school and their SOs. I mailed them their invitations (didn't hand them out at school) and there were absolutey no hard feelings; in fact my other CWers probably had no idea these four were even invited. So typically I say, go ahead and just invite those who you are friends with.

But if you work in a very small office, it may change things. LIke inviting 4 out of, say 8 people? I can see where that would cause drama. If that is more in line with your situation, I would probably invite all or none. Etiquette-wise, you would still be OK to just invite the four, but would it be worth the hassle you've made for yourself at work? That's for you to decide. If you aren't SUPER close friends with the 3 or 4, I might just not invite anybody from work and save the headache.

Jen4948

Well, I think that unless you are planning to invite everyone you work with, I would mail invitations to the homes of the co-workers you are inviting and refrain from discussing anything wedding-related at work or having any kind of "office shower" or celebration, because that can make things awkward between those whom you do invite and those whom you don't-especially if your boss is not invited-and it can come back to bite you.

Best wishes and best of luck.

shilotony2012

Im having the same dilemma. I work in a very close office. 17 co workers. I planned on inviting all of them. They probably wont come. I live and work near St Louis, but wedding is a suburb of Chicago. Plus wedding is on a Friday night. We work in a social service agency so we cant really close. Anyway, we now have 25 workers. So, I would have to invite all 25 plus spouses and any kids. I want a few definately there, however they has been office drama when only a few have been invited to things...