Addressing Question (names)

jmconley08

Is it wrong to address the envelopes with Wife'sname & Husband'sname Lastname? Or do I have to do mr and mrs lastname?

I like the first option much better but just wanted to get opinions. thanks.

Peavy

Mr. and Mrs. John Smith is the most formal.  Some people like to address a married couple as Mrs. (or Ms.) Mary and Mr. John Smith, but I think it's awkward.  I'd rather see Mary and John Smith.

pixalicious

I aksed this question a while ago on here and got YELLED AT.... A LOT!  After playing around with it on my invites, I ended up going with Mr. John and Mrs. Jane Smith.  It's both formal, but also including the womans's first name = just as important as the mans name.
The yelling on this message board was unnecessary, but I still went with what the majority of people were suggesting.  In the end, it just looks more appropriate.

jmconley08

I think I'm going to go with mary and john smith. no mr/mrs stuff. my wedding is formal but i don't want the invites to feel stuffy. we also aren't doing inner envelopes so it's kind of a mix.

what did people yell about? so rediculous. thank you two for your opinions!

mtbentley

I plan to do Mr. and Mrs. John Smith... But I would not think twice if about it if I received an invite addressed to Mary and John Smith. I am no expert on what is proper but I say do what you like

LeiselEB

I prefer having formally addressed wedding invitations, but leaving off titles is okay for more casual weddings.

For what it's worth, if you want titles and to list the woman's name this is the correct format:

Mr. and Mrs. Jane and John Smith

coraleetbwed

I think this is so ridiculous looking, but that's just my humble opinion:

Mr. and Mrs. Jane and John Smith

LeiselEB

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_invites-paper_addressing-question-names?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:cd062f89-8272-496a-b0ab-225e1f87acecDiscussion:d8dbf740-0473-4d60-8945-88a8ed34ebe8Post:5061d6db-a9cb-4245-9b44-c7e13c1155a5">Re: Addressing Question (names)</a>:
[QUOTE]I think this is so ridiculous looking, but that's just my humble opinion: Mr. and Mrs. Jane and John Smith
Posted by coraleetbwed[/QUOTE]

<div>Well, it's the correct way. Why does it look ridiculous? I think it rolls off the tongue a lot better than some other combinations of titles/names I've seen.</div>

theholograms

We are doing Mr. and Mrs. John Smith (e.g.) - I like the formality of it personally, but everyone is different.

daria24

I personally hate NOT including the woman's name, I did Mrs. Jane and Mr. John Smith.

aragx6

I think it's important to note that it's OK to do it differently depending on the person. I have some friends who would be wildly offended to not have their name listed and some older folks who would think the more modern way super bizarre. You're trying to make your guests comfortable; it doesn't have to be consistent.

Lisa50

For married couples with the same last name, we used Mr. and Mrs. Jack Jones.  For married couples with different last names, we used Mr. Jack Jones and Ms. Mary Smith. 

For unmarried couples, we used Mr. Jack Jones (line 1), then Ms. Mary Smith (line 2).