Flat Thank You Cards?

TheSlowskys

I just received my thank you cards and wanted to get them out this weekend (I am inexcusably late already by knot standards). However, I was really po'd to get my cards in the mail (after they took 10 whole days) and found out they were flat!

https://pinholepress.com/products/thank-you-stationery-4-10063/

I have never received a flat thank you card in the mail.  Is it tacky?  I am very miffed because I actually usually fill up the entire inside of a normal thank you note (writing is small to average sized).

Also, am I wrong to have assumed the above link would be a normal folded card?  Nowhere on that site does it say it is flat, and it looks exactly the same for the other wedding thank yous.  I plan to call them since I am also not happy with the printing quality, but at this point I either just send those out and write really small, or I use some thank yous from CVS or something.

I have seen flat announcements and notecards, just never a thank you.

Thoughts?

TheSlowskys

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_invites-paper_flat-thank-you-cards?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:cd062f89-8272-496a-b0ab-225e1f87acecDiscussion:e00907ec-4fcb-487d-b722-fd84e9161cffPost:d2ff1d68-1df7-43fa-aaf5-5d9a8596281e">Re: Flat Thank You Cards?</a>:
[QUOTE]I don't think it's tacky.  I am always happy to receive any sort of thank you letter, note, card, postcard, etc.  However, it is annoying that it cuts down on the space to write personalized messages.  If you can print small, I say keep them. As for assuming they were folded cards, I think it's misleading for sure.  It does say "front" and "back" as opposed to "front" and "inside", so maybe that is how they are trying to distinguish.  I would have assumed it was a folded card as well.
Posted by amenter[/QUOTE]

I actually assumed our names would be on the back, and the inside would be blank.

OliveOilsMom

Looking at the link, I would have assumed the card was a flat one.  I would just use them, assuming their is enough room for you to write your thank you message.  Unless the picture is very grainy or pixilated.

By browsing around their website, it seems they have mostly flat cards.  They did have some folded and accordian cards under the Baby - /> Cards section.  But you are right, they should have been more clear that it was a flat card.

I also want to say, it's kinda funny to me that "The Slowskys" have been late on getting their TY cards out.

B2Z728

I don't think it's tacky. I'd be happy that I received a thank you with a nicely written response it. 

Unless you're very unhappy with the printing and you really don't think you can write small enough to say everything you want to say, I'd use the cards you purchased. The only indicator I see that they're flat is that it says "front" and "back" instead of "inside". I haven't looked at what else they sell, but they could have been more clear about the card format. 

TheSlowskys

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_invites-paper_flat-thank-you-cards?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:cd062f89-8272-496a-b0ab-225e1f87acecDiscussion:e00907ec-4fcb-487d-b722-fd84e9161cffPost:7f5c6900-e059-4799-9391-c8c16d8291d5">Re: Flat Thank You Cards?</a>:
[QUOTE]Looking at the link, I would have assumed the card was a flat one.  I would just use them, assuming their is enough room for you to write your thank you message.  Unless the picture is very grainy or pixilated. By browsing around their website, it seems they have mostly flat cards.  They did have some folded and accordian cards under the Baby - /> Cards section.  But you are right, they should have been more clear that it was a flat card.<strong> I also want to say, it's kinda funny to me that "The Slowskys" have been late on getting their TY cards out.
</strong>Posted by OliveOilsMom[/QUOTE]

Hahah.... that's an unrelated inside joke between me and my husband (weird, I just wrote fiance)...(if anyone has Comcast cable and remembers the turtle commercials). I will have them out just under the 2 month mark and we had a 2 week honeymoon... still late, I know.

libby2483

I received a flat thank you card for the last wedding I attended.  I thought nothing of it.  Frankly, I was just happy to be receiving a thank you less than six months after the wedding (or at all).

coraleetbwed

I don't think people care what kind of thank you note they receive as long as they get one.

I still remember hunting for an item on a bride's registry, special ordering it, and have not received any mention she ever received it.  I did ask a family member and they said she did.  Hope she doesn't send me a baby announcement, because she'll get zip. 

LeiselEB

Flat cards are fine. Cards that say "thank you" on them are not a faux pas unless you leave the rest of the card blank, though traditionally people did use personal stationery. 

I would have guessed it was a flat card based on that link, but you don't need to worry - write smaller, you'll have plenty of room and no one will think it's tacky

LeiselEB

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_invites-paper_flat-thank-you-cards?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:cd062f89-8272-496a-b0ab-225e1f87acecDiscussion:e00907ec-4fcb-487d-b722-fd84e9161cffPost:bc7b2c1b-c799-4eb3-9707-84df34e00111">Re: Flat Thank You Cards?</a>:
[QUOTE]Cards that say "thank you" on them are not a faux pas Those are what is regarded as the faux pas.  Etiquette regards them as lazy, commercial and form letter.  Check Miss Manners.
Posted by RetreadBride[/QUOTE]

<div>
</div><div>You didn't read the rest of my sentence. Stationery can have all sorts of messages or designs on it - "thank you" being one of them. A design =/= a form letter. So long as there is an actual message thanking people for their gift, having the words "thank you" printed on the card is not really a problem.</div><div>
</div><div>Miss Manners also says that you shouldn't use the words "thank you" when writing a message<em> to thank</em> someone - I tend to think she's a bit extreme when it comes to thank you cards. </div>

SarahA519

I did read something in an older etiquette book I have (1960's-1970's) that flat cards were the proper way to do thank you cards back then.  Although it's common to do a folded card now, the cards you have are completely ok and were even the "must have" back in those days.

As someone who still sometimes brings up to my fiance that we never received thank you cards from a couple's wedding a while back (I'll get over it, I promise!), I completely believe that any thank you card is VERY appreciated and a must.  The design is not the important part anyway.