Plus One's

cbradeis

First - ok to not invite a guest of a cousin who changes boyfriends like her underwear?  I have several cousins (late teens/early twenties) who have a new guy or girl everytime I see them.  I feel uncomfortable paying $120 for a plate for a kid I'm never going to see again.  Ok to not invite a guest for them?

Second - I didn't purchase inner envelopes... is it tacky to put "Miss First Name Last Name and Guest" on the outer envelope?

Thanks!

MyNameIsNot

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[QUOTE]First - ok to not invite a guest of a cousin who changes boyfriends like her underwear?  I have several cousins (late teens/early twenties) who have a new guy or girl everytime I see them.  I feel uncomfortable paying $120 for a plate for a kid I'm never going to see again.  Ok to not invite a guest for them? Second - I didn't purchase inner envelopes... is it tacky to put "Miss First Name Last Name and Guest" on the outer envelope? Thanks!
Posted by cbradeis[/QUOTE]

<div>If it's an acutal girlfriend/boyfriend, you have to invite them.  If it's the guy she met in the bar last night but they don't consider themselves in a relationship, you don't need to invite them.  Call the cousin and ask for the boyfriend's name when you are addressing invitations.  "Hey Jane, I'm addressing invitations.  Are you and John still together?  What's his last name?"  She'll volunteer if it's a new boyfriend.  If she mentions finding a random date, tell her you are only inviting couples in relationships.  Then address the envelope:</div><div>
</div><div>Ms. Jane Smith</div><div>Mr. John Doe</div><div>
</div><div>If there's no boyfriend, just address it to Ms. Jane Doe.  </div><div>
</div><div>For the teens who are under 18, you can put them on their parents' invitation and don't have to invite them with an s/o.  </div>

littlemoments324

teens you do not have to invite their s/o's...18 and older yes, if they've been in a relationship for a few months yes.

aaschoeffler

You are not required to invite boyfriends or girlfriends of your loved ones to your wedding, but if they've been dating for a few months (I would say at least 3 months), it would be an appreciated gesture for you to invite them. 
Also, I wouldn't write "and guest" on the outer envelope. This is where you should find out the name of their guest (significant other I would assume) and include it on the envelope. If they don't have a specified guest, than just invite the one person. 

A word of caution, if you don't want people to bring unspecifed guests, I would recommend saying something like the following on your RSVP card: "We have reserved ___ seat(s) in your honor" And if you don't want them to bring a guest, just write 1 in the blank. 
I went with a less specific RSVP card (though the inner envelope clearly stated who was invited), and I got several replies from people who have decided to bring new boyfriends or girlfriends that I didn't even know they had. 

MrsMeganL2012

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[QUOTE]You are not required to invite boyfriends or girlfriends of your loved ones to your wedding, but if they've been dating for a few months (I would say at least 3 months), it would be an appreciated gesture for you to invite them.  Also, I wouldn't write "and guest" on the outer envelope. This is where you should find out the name of their guest (significant other I would assume) and include it on the envelope. If they don't have a specified guest, than just invite the one person.  A word of caution, if you don't want people to bring unspecifed guests, I would recommend saying something like the following on your RSVP card: <strong>"We have reserved ___ seat(s) in your honor</strong>" And if you don't want them to bring a guest, just write 1 in the blank.  I went with a less specific RSVP card (though the inner envelope clearly stated who was invited), and I got several replies from people who have decided to bring new boyfriends or girlfriends that I didn't even know they had. 
Posted by aaschoeffler[/QUOTE]

I don't know what it is about this saying, but I really hate it.  I think it's because when I hear "in honor of", I think the person is dead. I know, that's probably "in memory of", but still. I can't shake that feeling.....it's too weird. :D

abt87

First- We didn't invite single cousins w/ a plus one.  FI has like 15 legitimately single cousins. However, I've explained to FMIL that IF the cousins get into a relationship, they can bring him/her as long as it is specified by the RSVP date.  Like OP, a few always have someone new at family functions. 

Second-are you doing any type of small pocketfold or enclosures with the invitations? We used a simple pocketful (I think it's called a kangaroo pocketfold) and I stuck a small card in pretty font that said "You are welcome to bring a guest"

MyNameIsNot

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[QUOTE]<strong>You are not required to invite boyfriends or girlfriends of your loved ones to your wedding</strong>, but if they've been dating for a few months (I would say at least 3 months), it would be an appreciated gesture for you to invite them.  Also, I wouldn't write "and guest" on the outer envelope. This is where you should find out the name of their guest (significant other I would assume) and include it on the envelope. If they don't have a specified guest, than just invite the one person.  A word of caution, if you don't want people to bring unspecifed guests, I would recommend saying something like the following on your RSVP card: "We have reserved ___ seat(s) in your honor" And if you don't want them to bring a guest, just write 1 in the blank.  I went with a less specific RSVP card (though the inner envelope clearly stated who was invited), and I got several replies from people who have decided to bring new boyfriends or girlfriends that I didn't even know they had. 
Posted by aaschoeffler[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Actually, you are required to invite boyfriends and girlfriends.  You don't have to let them bring some guy, but if they are in an actual relationship, you have to invite the s/o.  

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aragx6

Just call or fb cousins and ask if they're in a relationship with anyone. If they consider themselves to be in an exclusive relationship then they're a social unit and can't be broken up.

marthaler

You aren't "required" to invite anyone to your wedding.  It's YOUR wedding and you should be inviting who you like.


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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Plus One's : Actually, you are required to invite boyfriends and girlfriends.  You don't have to let them bring some guy, but if they are in an actual relationship, you have to invite the s/o.  
Posted by MyNameIsNot[/QUOTE]