So I forgot to seal ALL of my invites...

fosseprima

And they went out in the mail. Two response cards came back to me like almost immediately so I know all my stuffed envelopes are coming to people either empty or without a response card. Please tell me that this has happened to other brides before and how to help yourself cope with the fact that you just did that.

Any advice would be appreciated.

ootmother2

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_invites-paper_so-i-forgot-to-seal-all-of-my-invites?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:cd062f89-8272-496a-b0ab-225e1f87acecDiscussion:e7aee079-c9c5-4764-af3b-28130e6d998fPost:1cbcafac-f39d-444f-ab41-31ee31f1aab2">So I forgot to seal ALL of my invites...</a>:
[QUOTE]And they went out in the mail. Two response cards came back to me like almost immediately so I know all my stuffed envelopes are coming to people either empty or without a response card. Please tell me that this has happened to other brides before and how to help yourself cope with the fact that you just did that. Any advice would be appreciated.
Posted by fosseprima[/QUOTE]

Your profile says that your wedding is in October so it's very early to send the invitations.  Wait at least month or so before making phone calls to check that everyone got them

hoffse

Oh man... how did that happen?

LeiselEB

The post office usually won't mail something if it's not sealed. I'm a little confused on how this happened. I have a feeling people aren't receiving empty envelopes, but none at all. 

Kristin789

Your bio says your wedding is October 20.
So you would mail your invitations 8 weeks in advance:  August 25
And your RSVP date would be 3 weeks in advance:  September 29
See below for details.

I think you should be grateful that no one received these invitations, because people would think you are very pretentious sending your invitations nearly 16 weeks in advance, when the customary timeline that your guests have become familiar with from going to many, many weddings is to send the invitations 8 weeks in advance.

Q&A: Invitations: When to Send Wedding Invitations?

Q.

How far in advance should you send wedding invitations?

A.

Ideally, invitations should go out eight weeks before the wedding -- this gives guests plenty of time to clear their schedules for the day and make travel arrangements if they are out-of-towners. Timely invitations also let you make the RSVP date earlier -- about three weeks before the wedding -- so you can get a final head count and start making a seating chart (if you'll have one) before the week-before-the-wedding crunch begins.

JNV825

im going to go off topic for a second but you just made me think of two things....

the morning i went to mail my invitations, i stopped at my FMIL's house for something and I went to show her how I had stamped the envelopes when I realized that the last batch I had assembled were for some reason not staying closed, so thank god I stopped at FMIL's and she had some double sided tape. 

then when i got to the post office the guy helping me was awesome and he double checked the weight to ensure all my stamps were correct and he asked me about a dozen time sif i was sure that every single one was stamped and i kept reiterating to him how i worked so hard on them and i know for a fact they are absolutley perfect etc... he stuck his hand in the box without looking (no way he could have seen this) and th eone invitation he pulled out didn't have a stamp, we ended up going through the whole box and it was literally the only one i missed, talk about someone looking out for ya

[Deleted User]

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_invites-paper_so-i-forgot-to-seal-all-of-my-invites?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:cd062f89-8272-496a-b0ab-225e1f87acecDiscussion:e7aee079-c9c5-4764-af3b-28130e6d998fPost:a6679967-0e44-460c-ab8d-0192a6661239">Re: So I forgot to seal ALL of my invites...</a>:
[QUOTE]Your bio says your wedding is October 20. So you would mail your invitations 8 weeks in advance:  August 25 And your RSVP date would be 3 weeks in advance:  September 29 See below for details. I think you should be grateful that no one received these invitations, because people would think you are very pretentious sending your invitations nearly 16 weeks in advance, when the customary timeline that your guests have become familiar with from going to many, many weddings is to send the invitations 8 weeks in advance. Q&A: Invitations: When to Send Wedding Invitations? Q. How far in advance should you send wedding invitations? A. Ideally, invitations should go out eight weeks before the wedding -- this gives guests plenty of time to clear their schedules for the day and make travel arrangements if they are out-of-towners. Timely invitations also let you make the RSVP date earlier -- about three weeks before the wedding -- so you can get a final head count and start making a seating chart (if you'll have one) before the week-before-the-wedding crunch begins.
Posted by Kristin789[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>The tone of your response is very pretentious, not the timeframe of the OP mailing out her invites.

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aragx6

Wait how did the response card come back to you? Do you mean just the empty envelope with your address and a stamp on it?

fosseprima

The response cards that came back I'm assuming fell out in the post office I mailed them at. They were literally delivered to me that next morning. I just got so caught up in addressing them that I forgot to seal them all. The invite was in there nice and tight, just the response card was in the middle and the open end was facing outward.

FYI: It's a destination wedding so I feel I'm doing okay with the timing of my invites, perhaps I'm even a tad late.  I don't think being proactive and sending them out 15 weeks beforehand in this case makes me look pretentious. Of course, I'm also not inviting people that would care if it was pretentious.