Invite wording HELP!!

jennvig

I need some help with my invite wording, I am torn. My FI and I are splitting the bill for the wedding with my parents. I dont know what is appoprate wording for the invites. Should I put we (meaning my Fi and I) are resquesting the honor or should I put my parents or both? (need help with wording for both), Thanks for the help

squirrly

Who is actually hosting the wedding?  Paying is not the same as hosting.  Who is making decisions?  Who will deal with a last minute vendor question?  Are FI's parents at all involved? 

jennvig

His parents are not involved. My Fi and I are the ones making the decisions.

squirrly

Bride
and
Groom
request the pleasure of your company
at their wedding

<together with their parents />
<<Mr. and Mrs. BrideFather Last
Mr. and Mrs. Groom Father Last />>

Saturday the eighth of May
two thousand ten
at half past five o'clock in the evening.

Venue Name
City, State

The line in brackets < /> is optional.  If you decide you want it, then the two lines following that are a secondary option.

If you particularly want to highlight your parents and not FIs, first off, ensure that's not going to create a war later.  If that's not a problem, you could change those optional lines to:

together with Mr. and Mrs. BrideFather Last

Assuming that you have the same last name as your parents, it will be obvious who they are.  If not, people will sort it out later.

kristinanddan

My parents hosted even though we paid for the entire thing and made every decision. We used:

Mr and Mrs Bride's parents
request the honour of your presence...

Never underestimate how much it may mean to your parents to host. I know when one of my cousins got married, they didn't include the parents on the invite at all and my aunt was crushed.

banana468

Ditto PPs on hosting.

And the wording can change depending on where you're getting married.  If you're getting married in a house of worship, the hosts, "Request the honour of your presence."

jennvig

Good point I guess I never really thought of them being the hosts but not paying for the whole thing. I guess had a kinda misconstruded view of that. THANKS girls!!!!