addressing question

mkeys87

ok so mom helped me get my guest list together for her side of the family, which she called my grandma for help with. so, anyways, i know proper ettiquite says list each childs name, BUT we dont know if they have kids and if they do, their names. so once again, ettiquite says dont put  "Mr & Mrs john doe and family" so what do i put?

aerinpegadrak

If you don't know them well enough to know how many kids they have and what their names are, they're probably not close enough family to warrant an invitation.  If your mom thinks they need to be invited, she needs to figure out the names.

kristinanddan

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[QUOTE]If you don't know them well enough to know how many kids they have and what their names are, they're probably not close enough family to warrant an invitation.  If your mom thinks they need to be invited, she needs to figure out the names.
Posted by aerinpegadrak[/QUOTE]

Ditto aerin. Not knowing the exact spelling of someone's name is one thing, but not knowing if someone even has kids says to me that you haven't spoken with these people in years.

banana468

Ditto Aerin 100%.

grandboisd3

i think & family is just fine.

banana468

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[QUOTE]i think & family is just fine.
Posted by grandboisd3[/QUOTE]

It actually isn't.

1) It's not appropriate etiquette.  People should be invited by name.

2) It opens the door for the guest to invite anyone that s/he considers family.

3) It still doesn't solve your problem.  What if the person responds. "Mr. and Mrs. George Smith and family" will attend?  Then you still need to make more phone calls to figure out how many people are going to be at the event.  Do they have 2 kids or 12?

Find out the names or don't invite them.