Stressing about timing! Please advise.

Woodland5

Hi all,

Our wedding isn't until August 12, but our venue needs to know a head count a month beforehand (rather than the typical 2-3 weeks). 

I designed our invitations myself a few weeks ago, and listed the response cards with a response date of June 23 (to account for the 4th of July busy holiday week where no one is doing anything as well as any late stragglers we'll need to contact). 

Between proofing samples, tweaking the design, job stuff, and other life and wedding events including my shower, we got them ordered about a week later than we intended to. When we ordered, I thought about pushing the June 23 date, and then forgot to make a decision on it -- completely my fault. 

Our invitations and response cards were placed into the wrong mailing service - I believe I ordered a priority mailing, but they're going standard instead. Which means that they're not getting here until at the latest May 29. We'll have all of the envelopes, our return address stamp, postage, and RSVP envelopes this week, though, so I can address everything and place proper stamps this week. 

So that being said, let's say I get the invitations in the mail on Wednesday, May 30, so 95% our guests will get them between May 31 and June 2. 

Is three weeks enough of a response time for guests? I'm panicked. Thanks for your input.

ETA: We did send out Save the Dates in January to a majority of our guests, though not all.  

LDubHawksFan

I think you will be fine.  It's not ideal, but I wouldn't go changing the date on the invites!  If you are ready for a marathon addressing party next Tuesday night, I think you will be ok.  If most everyone knows about it already, they should know their decision.  And like you said, there is a little gap between the rsvp date & the venue cutoff.  I would imagine most people will either send them back immediately, or wait until the 23rd (or later).  I wouldn't stress any more about it because there isn't much you can change other than being super prepared, which it sounds like you are.  Good luck!!

aragx6

I think that's fine. A little tight, yes, but it will be alright.

catwine

i agree...and worst case scenario: if you don't hear from a lot of guests a few days before the response date you can always call them.

j-harvey

I'd only be concerned about those who didn't receive the STD.  Most people will return the RSVPs when they are due, regardless of when you send them.  If they received STDs, they've already deciding whether they're attending.