So, we're planning a wedding for November 2nd, 2013. This gives us time to a. prepare ourselves financially and b. prepare ourselves mentally/emotionally. FI and I both have to go through counseling to work on individual issues before we will feel comfortable you know, joining our lives together forever. We also have to whip our budget into shape in order to be able to afford things like a wedding and a house and kids, etc, etc.
FI and I are in complete agreement about our current arrangement, but his parents are super disappointed. At first they tried to convince us why we should move it up by telling me that having older members of the family at the wedding was more important than throwing a big expensive party. I could understand this if I was insisting that fulfill my champagne wishes and caviar dreams. Now, they just make little side remarks like "Well, it's too bad there won't be a wedding *this* year." or "Are you *sure* you can't get married this year?" I'm trying to be as diplomatic as I can, so the last time FMIl said something like that, I just told her as casually as I could that if we were getting married this year, we would already have needed to put deposits in. I think maybe she's starting to understand.
How about you? Anybody else dealing with other people's timelines?