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May 2013 Weddings
Need Some Input
Morning ladies, happy new year! 2013 is our year & I can't freaking wait! aha.
I will try to make this as short & easy as possible but that might be tough. FI & I are getting ready to send invites out this month & this morning I was going over the guestlist. So here it begins.. my moms side of the family is very tight knit & close. We do alot of things together, everyone's involved for holidays & events. I lost my uncle to brain cancer in May 2009 & he left behind his wife (my moms sister) & teenage son. That aunt has been seeing someone for the last couple of years & he has 3 kids. I don't know them very well, they attend our family events (thanksgiving, Christmas, etc.) because my aunt & him are there. Now as of right now, we were inviting my aunt, him*, my cousin & his girlfriend. Now.. I'm wondering if I have to invite his kids? Which bumps up their "portion of invites" from 4 people to 7. His oldest son I've met only once & his other 2 kids are like I said at family events. My FI & I don't interact with his kids.. they don't interact with us & my aunts relationship status isn't married or engaged to this guy... so question is, do I have to invite the kids or can I just invite him for the sake of her?
Sorry again if it's confusing or long.. I just need some input on which way I can go with this dilemma.
I will try to make this as short & easy as possible but that might be tough. FI & I are getting ready to send invites out this month & this morning I was going over the guestlist. So here it begins.. my moms side of the family is very tight knit & close. We do alot of things together, everyone's involved for holidays & events. I lost my uncle to brain cancer in May 2009 & he left behind his wife (my moms sister) & teenage son. That aunt has been seeing someone for the last couple of years & he has 3 kids. I don't know them very well, they attend our family events (thanksgiving, Christmas, etc.) because my aunt & him are there. Now as of right now, we were inviting my aunt, him*, my cousin & his girlfriend. Now.. I'm wondering if I have to invite his kids? Which bumps up their "portion of invites" from 4 people to 7. His oldest son I've met only once & his other 2 kids are like I said at family events. My FI & I don't interact with his kids.. they don't interact with us & my aunts relationship status isn't married or engaged to this guy... so question is, do I have to invite the kids or can I just invite him for the sake of her?
Sorry again if it's confusing or long.. I just need some input on which way I can go with this dilemma.
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Re: Need Some Input
I would be incline to not invite them since you are not close to them/dont interact with them.
Are you and FI paying for the wedding? If so, it's ultimately your decision. If it's not a big space/monetary issue to add 3 additional people, I don't see why you wouldn't, IMHO.
EDIT: sorry, I didn't realize that they're not married. I don't think it's a big deal to leave them out. Of course, I'm sure they'd appreciate it if you could, but no big deal.
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Can I ask why are you sending your invitations so early? (I'm just curious
[QUOTE]His kids are older.. oldest is 20? middle is 17 & youngest is 14? So they're not really kids... young adults. Does that make a difference?
Posted by tandrosoff[/QUOTE]
Nope, not at all. I agree with PP. I just can't read! :)
[QUOTE]I wouldn't invite the kids. Can I ask why are you sending your invitations so early? (I'm just curious )
Posted by marta119[/QUOTE]
I don't really see it as so early.. by the time we send them out, it'll be the 4 months mark & I've made the RSVP by April 25th. Etiquette is the 3 month mark. Around here, we usually anywheres between 5 months of the wedding. Just want to be ahead of the game & organized.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Need Some Input : I don't really see it as so early.. by the time we send them out, it'll be the 4 months mark & I've made the RSVP by April 25th. Etiquette is the 3 month mark. Around here, we usually anywheres between 5 months of the wedding. Just want to be ahead of the game & organized.
Posted by tandrosoff[/QUOTE]
Etiquette is 6-8 weeks from your wedding date, not the RSVP date. We're not sending ours until St. Patrick's Day weekend and my date is a week before yours.
Since your wedding will be on a holiday weekend, I think you're okay with sending them out closer to the 8-week mark, but I think 4 months is too early. You'll run the risk of people forgetting since they have so much time to respond.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Need Some Input : Etiquette is 6-8 weeks from your wedding date, not the RSVP date. We're not sending ours until St. Patrick's Day weekend and my date is a week before yours. Since your wedding will be on a holiday weekend, I think you're okay with sending them out closer to the 8-week mark, but I think 4 months is too early. You'll run the risk of people forgetting since they have so much time to respond.
Posted by bcbrown63[/QUOTE]
I'm in Saskatchewan, Canada & the holiday is the weekend before for us. The weekend of our wedding is a regular weekend. And again, just a prefrence for ourselves of when we want to send them.