Mother In Law Help

HinaChan

I am getting married here soon and I have an issue. My future mother in law is a florist and is helping with the wedding but she is taking it out of the way I want it. She keeps changing things when I want them a certain way and inviting people that we don't want at our wedding. I know if she pays for some then I can't say anything but she isn't. What do I do?

Annas2013

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[QUOTE]I am getting married here soon and I have an issue. My future mother in law is a florist and is helping with the wedding but she is taking it out of the way I want it. She keeps changing things when I want them a certain way and inviting people that we don't want at our wedding. I know if she pays for some then I can't say anything but she isn't. What do I do?
Posted by HinaChan[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>Tell her that the guest list is final and that if she adds anyone they won't be receiving an invitation and she'll be the one looking like a butt.  I had to put my foot down with my FMIL about invites as well.  As for the florist thing, you may be better off hiring an outside florist.  Things get tricky when family or friends get involved and it's a lot easier to be honest about what you want when it's someone you don't already have a relationship with.  </div>

SSaltzman87

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[QUOTE]In Response to Mother In Law Help : Tell her that the guest list is final and that if she adds anyone they won't be receiving an invitation and she'll be the one looking like a butt.  I had to put my foot down with my FMIL about invites as well.  As for the florist thing, you may be better off hiring an outside florist.  Things get tricky when family or friends get involved and it's a lot easier to be honest about what you want when it's someone you don't already have a relationship with.  
Posted by Annas2013[/QUOTE]
I completely agree with this. As far as the florist thing, I'd hire an outside one since she's not able to still be professional. How does your FI feel about this?