QOTD 4/18

SSaltzman87

What are you planning to have/not have/do at your wedding that's considered out of the norm to the rest of your family?

SSaltzman87

I imagine the biggest thing would be that FI and I won't have a religious ceremony. FI's side is while mine isn't so much. For the most part, we'll be the first to do a lot of things- like on my mom's side, our's will be the first MN wedding in almost 30 years.

Danny&Mel2003

Honestly idk lol were staying pretty traditional for my family for Fi it'll be different in the sense we are going to have some Jewish traditions but not to the extreme.

tandrosoff

One thing would be us doing a First Look. Seeing each other just before the ceremony. I don't know of any family members or friends who have done it. My mom actually likes the idea so I'm happy with that

Swazzle

We're doing a first-look.

My mom is walking me down the aisle.

Our ceremony is short & not religious.

We're having an endless cocktail reception instead of a sit-down dinner.

We're not doing the garter or bouquet toss.

There will be no electric slide, chicken dance, or anything of the sort. 

I think that's it. 

ETA: My FI & the GM are all wearing Vans sneakers. 

No FG or RB.

melb2013

My family is going to be expecting a Jewish ceremony and FI's family is going to be expecting a large, Indian, Hindu wedding.  We're having a short ceremony with no Jewish traditions and only a couple of Hindu rituals.  Our wedding is super small by my FI's family's standards (150 people), and I will not be wearing an Indian dress which will also flip them out.  

My family will be expecting more of those traditional wedding aspects like all the special dances (we're only having a first dance), grand entrace (not having one), tosses (not those either), etc.

turtleslove

1. We are doing a first looks and ALL of our photos before the ceremony
2. 3 rows of chairs instead of two so no one can sit on a "side"
3. No "traditional" reception stuff- tosses, speeches, STUPID SONGS or dances. Having great entertainment, lawn games and a photo booth.

kaybee1987

We aren't doing a religious ceremony

We are doing a sand ceremony

I don't believe anybody else in our families have had a ring-bearer

I'm debating about the bouquet and garter toss, as we won't really have any single people at the wedding.

And just recently, the FI asked about taking dance lessons... so I'm thinking of suggesting doing something fun with the first dance--like start it traditional and then break into some cool dance moves!  THAT would definitely be different from anything our families have done!

Besides that, we are sticking pretty traditional!

RebCappon

Well we're getting married in Rochester and not getting married in a church. So those are 2 definite firsts for his family. I am the first one on my side of the family (including extended) to get married.

DivaJenD

I really am a traditional girl, so to be honest, not doing a lot outside the "norm" for us. We're having the ceremony at a Catholic Church (which is tradition for my family), however, I'm actually the first person in the family (including cousins) to marry a non-Catholic (he's Protestant).

We're having a Groom's Cake, which no one in the family has done previously.

Still planning everything out, obviously, so there may be more as the planning progresses...

hope5377

We're pretty traditional too, so I'd say one of the untraditional things we're doing so far is a First Look.

Smashleyk

For 1 no church wedding, and no religious aspects of the ceremony, which may shock everyone on both sides because everyone is pretty religious...but it's our ceremony, what are they gonna do? Lol

FLGatorGal88

We are doing first look photos and taking all formal pictures before ceremony...
No garter or bouquet toss
We are not having religious ceremony
There will be no kind of  line dancing of any sort!!!!
We are doing a sand unity ceremony instead of a candle unity ceremony.

Most the traditional aspect for the reception will be a no go...

FutureMrsG2013

We're doing a first look as well. We're not doing a bouquet or garter toss but rather an anniversary dance. There will be no chicken dance, electric slide (but there will be the cupid shuffle and cha cha slide!), I'll be the first on my side to get married (extended and immediate). And we're doing a sand ceremony as well I think, and although there will be 2 sides, we're telling people to sit wherever rather than the bride/groom side.

SSaltzman87

LOL! No line dancing :-P

hisbabygirl76

In the traditional sense our wedding alone is not "tradiational". As its my 2nd time around.

We are not having a religious ceremony or getting married in a church. My son is walking me down the aisle along with my father but not "giving me away". We arent doing the bouquet or garter and I am trying to get FI to agree to no first dance.  I am not traditional and would much rather skip the "formal" traditional stuff.

mymissingpuzzlepiece

-short, spiritual wedding outdoors (no one in my family has had a ceremony outside of a church)

-tree planting ceremony

-I want my mom and dad to walk me down the aisle

-no bouquet or garter toss

-no chicken dance, cha-cha slide, electric side or anything annoying like that

-no props during the reception like glow sticks or inflatable toys, I don't get it

Annas2013

Oh goodness I'll never hear the end of it from my mom about how I want to change things up from what's normal(to her).  First off, we're not having a ring bearer or flower girl.  Second, the ceremony isn't going to be decorated very much because it's outside.  I'm not making my bridesmaids look all the same (I may use the same dress but hair and shoes are up to them).  We're doing first look pictures.  I'm not wearing ivory shoes that match my dress.  The ceremony will be outside unless it rains, but it's also going to be very short.  The first dance will not be traditional.  It'll be fun.  Maybe a tango or some other fast-paced song.  Or a waltz.  Not that slow swaying crap.(sorry to anyone who likes those dances)

melb2013

I forgot that we're also seeing each other before the ceremony and taking all of pictures then.  I have every intention of us speding the night before the wedding together- I mean, who are we kidding?  I glad to know that so many of you are also doing first looks

SRRL18

Good question. The only things I can think of that we are doing differently is a photobooth and candy buffet at the reception. Other than that everything is the same. It will be the first wedding in FI's family for about 15 yrs and the second in my family since 2010, the one before that was also about 15 yrs before.