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Guest list vent...already

So it's already started.... We had to set a limit on how many people to invite due to our budget. We were lucky that we were able to invite all our family and closest friends. The only thing we could not do was invite our local single friends with a "plus one". I didn't think this was too big of a deal since none of them have to travel far and they aren't in any kind of a relationship right now. We made sure to invite any out of town single people with a plus one since they had to travel. I just sent out my invites on Friday and I've gotten two text's from friends asking if they can bring a guest. I know I shouldn't make too big of a deal out of it, but I hate to tell people no. I guess I just want to make everyone happy. I just got the texts today and haven't responded yet....

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    edited December 2011
    Oh,I feel you on this one. We had to do the same thing. I just said that it was a venue issue...that we literally could not invite anymore people or the place could not fit them...which for the most part was true...
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    edited December 2011
    I actually had a friendship end over this exact issue! :/  Good luck!
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    edited December 2011
    Guess it just boggles my mind that people don't know better and ask anyways. I guess they'll learn when it's their turn to try to plan a wedding :) So far its been two of our guy friends so I don't think they'll think too much of it, but I still feel bad I can't say yes.
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    edited December 2011
    funny...both were my two guy friends as well. I honestly think people do not understand till the plan a wedding. I really think people just think its free to throw a wedding...haha
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    edited December 2011
    I can't believe a guy would take it that hard to end a friendship, just wow!
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    edited December 2011
    well...he texted me one day and I told him no. Then he texted me 3 days later and asked if I changed my mind yet...I still said no, (after I told him it was rude to text the bride about the invitation) he told me it was rude for me to expect him to come to my wedding without a date...I just said that DH and I wanted him there and that was only possible by inviting one person...so we basically haven't spoke since. He messaged me on fbook the day after the wedding to say congrats and take care and I took that as its been nice but I'm done being friends with you...haha Whatev....
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    edited December 2011
    he sounds nuts! haha you were probably better off in the long run. Well the one just texted me back with a "thats okay I understand, I just wanted to make sure". phew
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    edited December 2011
    cute pup by the way!
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    edited December 2011
    yeah, the other  guy friend that asked was totally cool about it. THe whole thing was we had gone to a wedding in the previous year...he was supposed to bring a date...she flaked out and he ended up having a great time by himself with me and DH...whateverthanks for the pup compliment :)
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    missizzmissizz member
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    edited December 2011
    If they're you're close friends, I would tell them that as of right now, your guest list doesn't allow for them to bring a guest.  I would let them know that if space opens up, they'd be able to bring a guest.  Yeah, it could be tacky and is TOTALLY breaking etiquette, but if they're you're close friends, I guarantee they'd understand.
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    bel138bel138 member
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    edited December 2011
    You're nicer than we were - we didn't invite ANY single guests with a date. Some are traveling from CA. I mean, look at the number on our guest list as it is!
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    AP910AP910 member
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    edited December 2011
    I'd hope it is that they just don't understand... I asked to bring a date to my cousin's wedding when I was in college, and they said no. Now I am MORTIFIED that I even thought it was semi-appropriate to ask! I just didn't know any better. I'm sure your friends will understand once they get married!
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    pugnpenguinpugnpenguin member
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    edited December 2011
    My cousin/bm and I just had an argument over this. Of course it was my other cousin I was saying couldn't bring a guest. But then he's just randomly started dating this girl a few weeks ago.
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