QOTD 2/7

SSaltzman87

What's the rudest/most unusual WR question/comment that's been directed at you?

SSaltzman87

Either "Oh, your engagement's so long!" or "You're actually letting your bridesmaids pick out their own dresses?"

rswans

Mine has been on the reception venue. It's a well known sports bar/restaurant/brewery in the Buffalo area where people go before Sabres games, but it's really pretty. It has wood floors and ceilings, brick walls and archways, floor to ceiling windows that look out on downtown and the water and the two upper floors are completely private with their own balconies. I keep getting "Why would you want to have your wedding there? It's a bar! That's no place for a wedding." or some variation of that. It's so frustrating, but at least they'll realize when they get there that is has a lot more than just the first floor bar/restaurant.

Second is "wait, you're not getting married until NEXT year?"

hope5377

Definitely comments about the long engagement!

Swazzle

It's not necessarily rude but it's definitely annoying.  When I ask someone what they think of an idea I have regarding the decor or something & they tell me "I think you have time to figure that out."  No shiit.  I'm aware of when my wedding is, I didn't ask about that, I asked your thoughts on THIS idea.  

SSaltzman87

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[QUOTE]Definitely comments about the long engagement!
Posted by hope5377[/QUOTE]
I hate that. It's almost like a long engagement is a horrible thing. The reason for mine is mostly money, if that weren't an issue- we would've kept our original date for June of this year. A lot of people don't realize what all goes into planning a wedding.

hisbabygirl76

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[QUOTE]It's not necessarily rude but it's definitely annoying.  When I ask someone what they think of an idea I have regarding the decor or something & they tell me "I think you have time to figure that out."  No shiit.  I'm aware of when my wedding is, I didn't ask about that, I asked your thoughts on THIS idea.  
Posted by rdr716[/QUOTE]


I hear this one alot. I know that I have time. A lot of time to be exact. But I also have a full time job, 3 kids, actively volunteer for two organizations , sit on the board of one, and part of a womans org at my job. Yeah there isnt alot of time when you factor that in, and again I didnt ask for their thoughts on time frame, just whatever I am speaking about for the wedding.

I also get a lot because its my second one "does your ex know?". SERIOUSLY. this is from family who know the situation, he was horribly abusive, a creep and there is no contact at all.  He has no right to know about my life now so NO he doesnt know. Really why ask that.

Sorry to vent ladies, obviously this QOTD got me LOL<img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-laughing.gif" border="0" alt="Laughing" title="Laughing" />

melb2013

"Why are you waiting so long"

"You're planning ALREADY?" (ummmm yes, I have two jobs, I do not have time to wait until the last minute)

Then I have a whole list of ones that come just from the in laws:

"Wait, you're not having an Indian wedding?  How does that work?"

"When are you having children?  That LONG? Is that what [FI] wants too?" (no, I've made all these decisions alone... )

"Why haven't you learned how to speak Hindi?  You should learn before the wedding."(because Fi doesn't even know how to speak it...)

SSaltzman87

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[QUOTE] I also get a lot because its my second one "does your ex know?". SERIOUSLY. this is from family who know the situation, he was horribly abusive, a creep and there is no contact at all.  He has no right to know about my life now so NO he doesnt know. Really why ask that.
Posted by hisbabygirl76[/QUOTE]
Wow, your family members have cojones.

SSaltzman87

Oh yeah, I also can't stand when people ask if FI and I plan to have kids (we've been asked that question ever since we started dating). My parents can't stand it either and have even started coming up with clever responses :-P

SRRL18

When FI says "You have lots of time to find a dress, don't worry". I need a dress, I need it because I need to feel like it's real. I'm so scared I won't find a dress and that I will have to settle on something.

mymissingpuzzlepiece

The worst by far was a couple of days ago. My FI's parents are hardcore Penacostals and are very traditional. We told them that we were having a female Celebrant and his dad said, "If you have a woman officiate the wedding I'm not coming and neither is your grandma." Wtf? Why can't a woman officiate the wedding?

melb2013

mymissingpuzzle: That is so terrible.  I'd be flipping out.  I think people get even more uptight about religion when it comes to weddings.

When we talked to celebrants, my FI's mother asked if they were Indian and then he said no.  And then she wanted to know their names- when she realized they were woman she just said that she didn't understand how this was going to work... People are ridiculous.

mymissingpuzzlepiece

melb, seriously I know. What is wrong with people? My FI and I got into a hug fight because of it. Luckily, his dad called last night and apologized. He didn't know that it was going to upset me so much and he feels really bad. The comment surprised me because it was so out of character... My FI's dad is such as nice man, I couldn't believe something like that could come out of his mouth. 

SSaltzman87

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[QUOTE] And then she wanted to know their names- when she realized <strong>they were woman</strong> she just said that she didn't understand how this was going to work... People are ridiculous.
Posted by melb2013[/QUOTE]
Your FI's parents do know it's 2012 right? :-P

In general, I think weddings bring out the weirdest emotions in people. The only person I know of that truly has an issue with FI and I not having a religious ceremony is FI's grandma, and/or possibly my jewish grandmother whom I pretty much don't have a relationship with. At the end of the day, you've gotta do what works for you and don't let people like that get their way with you.

RebCappon

Mostly the comments about the length and how I don't need to worry about anything right now.

Very annoying.

And rswans- Where are you getting married, I went to school in Buffalo so now you have me curious

rswans

Reb- I'm getting married at Pearl Street. I absolutely love it, but some of my family, especially my older family, thinks of it as "just a bar."

RebCappon

rswans- I LOVE Pearl Street. We had a lot of our functions there for school. The upstairs is awesome with the balcony outside.

hisbabygirl76

Sometimes poeple just dont practice that wonderful saying of "if you dont have anything nice to stay dont say anything at all".

mymissingpuzzlepiece

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[QUOTE]Sometimes poeple just dont practice that wonderful saying of "if you dont have anything nice to stay dont say anything at all".
Posted by hisbabygirl76[/QUOTE]

<div>Lol, yep.</div>

FLGatorGal88

I think the most I hear is you have soooo much time... Don't worry....

Danny&Mel2003

The one I hate ... why such a long engagement? -let's see umm were saving our money for the wedding!!!

This one doesn't bother me as much ... do you have babies?  -no were untraditional were doing marriage then babies ... when are the babies coming? -when were flipping ready!!!

and lastly: you have so much time why are you looking at this stuff now -were looking its not booked and its research we want the best of the best!

kristinathenina

Mine was by my FMIL a couple weeks ago, we were at dinner with his family and his grandma from out of town, and Grandma had asked some questions about the wedding, so I was telling her, FMIL said that since things have changed so much she's not gonna worry about anything until a month before the wedding.  I didnt say anything then, but in my head I was freaking out because they had volunteered to pay for our honeymoon, and a month wouldnt be enough time to reserve the hotel.  I was so upset I barely said anything the rest of the night, when Fi asked me about it privately I broke down crying saying we would yet again have to move our wedding date so we could save money for the honeymoon as well.  He did end up talking to her, and apparently she was talking about her attire (I've already told her- "beach wedding, really causal") and not backing out of our honeymoon present.  It was still really offensive that she sounded like she was blaming me for so many changes (including the push from sept this year to may of next), its not our fault that FI got laid off, and so instead of being stupid and going ahead with plans and being in debt from a wedding we cant afford, we moved the date so we can start our lives together without bills from the wedding.

SRRL18

I take back what I posted yesterday.

We went to my Nonna's last night, really tradional Catholic Italian woman. She started to get upset over my BM choices because 2 of them are married and you're not supposed to have a married woman stand at the alter with you. She then started to suggest I pick 2 of my cousins (who are 17 and 15 yrs old) to stand with FI and I at the alter. I told her that times have changed and that that isn't really important but she got upset.

She then also started to question my dress wants. I told her I wanted something a tad sexy with a romatic feeling, mermaid style. She told me that I'm not going out dancing and that I need to look like a princess and wear a ball gown and that since I'm short it will look horrible on me. SO NOT MY STYLE! She offered to come dress shopping with me, which is fine, I'd love to have her feel part of the wedding plans, but if she's going to hate all my choices, I really don't want her there.