Mom's

lalans

Are you ladies giving the mom's guidelines for what they should or shouldn't wear, and how are you picking?  

Awhile ago FI's mom was asking about coordinating with my mom...my mom hates hates hates shopping, and probably wants to wear what she wore to my sister's wedding a few years ago.   I wouldn't even know how to coordinate them even...would it be similar colors as the wedding party? Just not clashing colors?  Since we finalized wedding party people and I'm emailing the girls, I think FI's mom will bring it up again soon.

SSaltzman87

I know etiquette says the moms shouldn't match the wedding colors. 

I'm letting my mom pick her own outfit and I really don't care what she wears. I know she'll run it by me and she dresses herself well so I'm not worried about her showing up in disgusting sweats or anything :-P

pittpoint1119

My mom picked hers first cause FI mom said too so she can base it off of my moms and BM dresses. My mom is wearing black dress, very classy

turtleslove

My mom hates shopping so I will go with her to pick something out. And my FMIL will probably wear a dress she bought for FBIL wedding last year. She spent a year obcessing about what to wear for that wedding and bout 6 different dresses, but has only mentioned it to me once.
Hoping to get my mom in a nude dress with a black lace overlay and FMIL will most likely wear black.  Wedding colors are dark purple and green.

Family definitely shouldnt match the wedding party, coordinating is nice! Having comatible colors and fabrics does not mean the same thing as matching.

rswans

I didn't care what my mom got as long as she was comfortable. However, I went dress shopping with her (which she hates) and on her own she did end up picking a dress that compliments mine in style, the color compliments the bridesmaids (but isnt the same color or match in any way), and is gorgeous. I sent it to my FMIL because she wanted to see it to coordinate or at least not clash, but she hasn't picked hers yet. 

lalans

My issue is actually figuring out what coordinating means....it hadn't even crossed my mind before FI's mom asked.  My mom's dress from my sister's wedding is very nice and she liked it alot..its a light/tealish blue.  Bridal party is going to be navy with guys either in tuxes, blue suites or grey suits.

So, I don't think my mom's dress would clash at least if she wears that one again.  She tends to go for blues or purples in general for clothing.  I don't really know what FI's mom usually wears, but I'm not worried about her showing up not dressed well...just don't know what to tell her for coordinating if she asks again

sbc2013

Since there seems to be a blue theme to the dresses (your mom in teal blue and bridal party in navy blue), I would suggest to your FMIL that if she wants to coordinate she can choose another shade of blue. I actually think all the different shades will look awesome in pictures. That's what I think of when I hear coordinating. 

My FMIL said the same thing to my mom as pittpoint, basically for my mom to choose her dress first and then she will coordinate based on that, which I thought was super nice of her since she can obviously wear whatever she wants. I really am not too picky about what the two of them wear and I think their comfort is most important, but I think it would be really nice if we are all able to coordinate. I haven't chosen BM dresses yet, but I think they will be of two different colors (and two different styles), and maybe the moms can play off those colors in whatever they choose. 

SRRL18

I'm not worried about my (step) mom choosing a dress. She has great style and has been running ideas by me which I've loved all so far. My (birth) mother, is what worries me. She's so picky and tends to choose browns and beiges too much which wash her out. 

FMIL will more than likely not be attending.

FFIL's girlfriend has asked me for guidelines; length, color, fabric even. I told her it's her choice but if she wanted me to go shopping with her I would.

RebCappon

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[QUOTE]I know etiquette says the moms shouldn't match the wedding colors.  I'm letting my mom pick her own outfit and I really don't care what she wears. I know she'll run it by me and she dresses herself well so I'm not worried about her showing up in disgusting sweats or anything :-P
Posted by SSaltzman87[/QUOTE]

This.

lgoin1

My mom sometimes looks like she dresses in the dark and my FMIL is stuck in the eighties (pseudo mullet and all).  x_x thankfully, they both trust my fashion-sense and expect that I will help pick something out with them.  Thanks for asking this lalans, because I was just wondering if there was some special coordination or something we had to do with our moms!

TogetherPerfect

FMIL asks me about this almost every time I see her... What color she should wear, what style, what length, how should she do her hair... I'm so laid back about it all that I really don't mind, as long as she is reasonable about it. She wants my mom to pick first, but like many PP's, my mom hates shopping and will probably wait til last minute!

augurey

I want to see what my mom is wearing, and I think it'd be fun to go shopping with her, but the bottom line is I really don't care what she wears as long as she's comfortable.

FMIL wore the same dress to FSIL's wedding and FBIL's wedding. And I really couldn't care less if she decided to wear it ours. It looks good. She probably won't but, I say, to each their own.

They know how to dress appropriately, whatever they decide to wear will be just fine.


Oh, and I didn't know that the mom's dresses shouldn't wear something in matching colors. Actually, my mom found a dress that we both like that is probably close... (and here I thought that would be a great idea! lol).