I literally can't get over this invite... it's killing me

melb2013

Okay, that was melodramatic but you know how much lack of etiquette bothers me!

Again to judge this invite (FSIL's...)

1. Parents names are listed as "Mrs. Jane Doe and Mr. John Michael (yes, his middle name is listed, not hers) Doe".  They both have the same last name... why is it not "Mr. and Mrs. John Doe"?

2. There are two separate invites- one for the ceremony and one for the reception.  The reception immediately follows the ceremony at the same location.  Why couldn't they just say "Reception Immediately to Follow"?  Did it really need a whole separate invite?  And it's not just a reception card- it's just as large as the actual invite.

3.  The reception invite begins with "Our joy will be more complete if you can share in the celebration of our daughter and son in law (to be)".  HUH?????  Was that English????  And by the time someone goes to the reception, the "to be" part won't be correct.

4. The return address is the parents.  In this case they are listed as "Mr. John and Mrs. Jane Doe".  Ya, still not correct.

5. At the worst.... "No Boxed Gifts" is listed at the bottom of the invite... There are no words... This is the third Indian invite I've received like this in the past 6 months... is it illegal for invites to leave India without "no boxed gifts" listed at the bottom?

sbc2013

Here's a thought...are they inviting some people only to the ceremony or only to the reception? That is the only reason I can think of for two separate invitations! That, or wanting to show off and make it clear that they could afford the multiple invitations? I'm guessing they are nice looking, knowing you said FSIL has a huge budget. 

And also, when I read the "no boxed gifts" part, I got the hiccups. And now they won't go away. I'm going to go ahead and pretend it isn't a coincidence and I'm just that mortified.

melb2013

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[QUOTE]Here's a thought...are they inviting some people only to the ceremony or only to the reception? That is the only  reason I can think of for two separate invitations! That, or wanting to show off and make it clear that they could afford the multiple invitations? I'm guessing they are nice looking, knowing you said FSIL has a huge budget.  And also, when I read the "no boxed gifts" part, I got the hiccups. And now they won't go away. I'm going to go ahead and pretend it isn't a coincidence and <strong>I'm just that mortified.</strong>
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</div><div>Haha I know!  They're okay looking.  She didn't spend very much on the invites actually- I'm spending more I think.  She bought them online from India where they are cheaper.  I just really don't like the Indian aesthetic, but they're okay.

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melb2013

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[QUOTE]Here's a thought...are they inviting some people only to the ceremony or only to the reception? That is the only  reason I can think of for two separate invitations! <strong>That, or wanting to show off and make it clear that they could afford the multiple invitations?</strong> I'm guessing they are nice looking, knowing you said FSIL has a huge budget.  And also, when I read the "no boxed gifts" part, I got the hiccups. And now they won't go away. I'm going to go ahead and pretend it isn't a coincidence and I'm just that mortified.
Posted by sbc2013[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>This is what's happening.  Her cousins had huge gaps between ceremony and reception so had two separate invites so you could accept or decline to attend one or the other if you wanted to.  Because her cousins had it, she has to also!  She is having anything that her family has had plus.

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monikaedwards

Oh my. 

SSaltzman87

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[QUOTE]Again to judge this invite (FSIL's...) 1. Parents names are listed as "Mrs. Jane Doe and Mr. John Michael (yes, his middle name is listed, not hers) Doe".  They both have the same last name... why is it not "Mr. and Mrs. John Doe"? 
Posted by melb2013[/QUOTE]
I know the Mr. & Mrs. John Doe thing is super traditional. My grandparents prefer it, and they're the only people I know that do. Otherwise separating is perfectly fine.<div>
</div><div>ETA: I don't understand the middle name thing though, lol. </div>

RebCappon

Yikes. 

melb2013

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[QUOTE]In Response to I literally can't get over this invite... it's killing me : I know the Mr. & Mrs. John Doe thing is super traditional. My grandparents prefer it, and they're the only people I know that do. Otherwise separating is perfectly fine. ETA: I don't understand the middle name thing though, lol. 
Posted by SSaltzman87[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>I have several etiquette books that would disagree.  It's not tradition, just grammatically correct.  If the couple had different last names, then they would be listed separately.  Like my parents are Ms. Mary Smith and Mr. John Jones.  And the middle name thing is super weird...  I'm just an invite snob!

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PJBHL5

LOL, some invites just look like a mess when you read it all together.
I'm so glad we are doing very casual invites. Less to critique, since it doesn't fit into ANY Of the traditional etiquette quidelines.

SSaltzman87

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[QUOTE]LOL, some invites just look like a mess when you read it all together. I'm so glad we are doing very casual invites. Less to critique, since it doesn't fit into ANY Of the traditional etiquette quidelines.
Posted by PJBHL5[/QUOTE]
Yeah, ours will be more casual too. My parents actually hate the "Mr. & Mrs. John & Jane Doe" wording anyway so it'll just be "John & Jane Doe" for them. And as far as guests go, we're addressing them how we know each of them would want to be referred to- like my grandparents preferring "Mr. & Mrs. John Doe" over anything else.

jenjlgsings

It amazes me what some people send out...

The most recent wedding I went to had horrible invitations.

It had their names and "sitting in a tree k-i-s-s-i-n-g
and then "first comes love, then comes cohabitation, <date of wedding /> is the marriage and who knows, maybe some day a baby in a baby carriage"

Right on the invite, it said "we have already established a household together and prefer gifts of cash"

Not that people didn't know they were living together, but why was it so blatently put on there?  Not to mention the cheesy rhyme and asking for cash right on the invite?!

Not surprising, the wedding was quite a doozie as well... 

SRRL18

Wowzers. I really don't understand people. When I read the title of the post I knew it had to be about your FSIL.

melb2013

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[QUOTE]Wowzers. I really don't understand people. When I read the title of the post I knew it had to be about your FSIL.
Posted by SRRL18[/QUOTE]

<div>Haha that is hilarious!</div>

PJBHL5

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I literally can't get over this invite... it's killing me : Yeah, ours will be more casual too. My parents actually hate the "Mr. & Mrs. John & Jane Doe" wording anyway so it'll just be "John & Jane Doe" for them. And as far as guests go, we're addressing them how we know each of them would want to be referred to- like my grandparents preferring "Mr. & Mrs. John Doe" over anything else.
Posted by SSaltzman87[/QUOTE]

Mine is "Together with their families, Jackie and Patrick invite you to celebrate their wedding..."
or something along those lines.
No parents names are on our invitations, b/c our parents aren't hosting the wedding, we are. But we wanted to include the 3 kids in some way b/c they're our mini hosts. lol

melb2013

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I literally can't get over this invite... it's killing me : Mine is "Together with their families, Jackie and Patrick invite you to celebrate their wedding..." or something along those lines. No parents names are on our invitations, b/c our parents aren't hosting the wedding, we are. But we wanted to include the 3 kids in some way b/c they're our mini hosts. lol
Posted by PJBHL5[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>I like the "together with their families"- I think it's really nice.

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