I really need HELP

sweetbrat89

I am getting Married May 4,2013 this will be my one and only wedding
My Dad lost his fight to cancer not to long ago, we was very close. i want to do something at my wedding for my dad not sure what to do or how to do it can you please help me with this

Swazzle

I'm very sorry for your loss. My grandfather passed away right before I got engaged I was extremely close to him. I'm going to have his picture in a locket pinned to the stem of my bouquet. My officiant will say something during the ceremony like, "We would like to remember those who couldn't be here with us today." He also offered to make it more personalized but I'm afraid I'll get really upset if he says his name at that moment plus my FI's grandparents have passed away also so we've chosen to keep it general. I hope this helps!

ansanna

First, I'd like to say I'm very sorry for your loss, and I understand where you are coming from, my father passed away in February of 2011 from a long battle with lung cancer... I plan on doing a few things for him at our wedding. First, I just want to bring to light that the things you choose to do can be as subtle as you want.. you need to remember that whatever you do will bring the mood down and a tear to some of your guest's eyes, so timing is key to ensure that your entire evening isn't dwelling on that moment of remembrance... I'm not sure of your parents relationship but my parents were together for 51 years.. That's also playing a rolein my decision.... Here are my plans: 1. My officiant (my cousin) will mention something small during our ceremony in a "getting to know the bride and groom" part of or ceremony and/or in a prayer. 2. I am putting a poem on the back of our programs: " I thought of you with love today but that is nothing new I thought about you yesterday and days before that too, I think of you in silence I often speak your name All I have are memories and your picture in a frame. Your memory is my keepsake with which I'll never part God has you in His keeping I haveyou in my heart." 3. I am making an "in memory" table that will have photos of my dad and grand parents, and my fiances grand parents. It will say "In memory of those who could not be with us today" and we will put it in an area without high traffic in the reception room do that it is there but not screaming "come look at me and get upset" 4. And at my mothers request, she is asking that after our mother daughter dance that she dance with my brother to my mother and father's song (which they danced to at their wedding) Unchained Melody. I've also read of wearing something of your father's or pinned onto your bouquet, I may choose to do something like that but haven't decided yet, and my ideas on this may change, I've been tossing around the idea of not putting anything on the program and just leave the poem for the memory table.. And I'm sorry for any typos, I sent this from my cellphone and it likes to do crazy things.. I hope this was helpful..

SRRL18

Our priest will ask every one for a moment of silence to those who couldn't not be there with us today. FI and I are thinking of doing a memorial candle near the guest book at the reception. But we aren't sure because we don't want anyone to become saddened when it should be a joyous time.

pittpoint1119

Sorry for your loss, I know how hard it is when a loved one fights. At our wedding the priest will mentioned loved ones, I will have a memory candle with a poem on the alter for our family and friends. I am also having a Generations of Love table at our reception. FI grandparents both passed away and only my one grandmother has, what I will do is have a picture of each great grandparents,grandparents and parents on their wedding day. I am also having a picture of my grandmother hang off my bouquet as well.

SSaltzman87

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[QUOTE]I'm very sorry for your loss. My grandfather passed away right before I got engaged I was extremely close to him. I'm going to have his picture in a locket pinned to the stem of my bouquet. My officiant will say something during the ceremony like, "We would like to remember those who couldn't be here with us today." He also offered to make it more personalized but I'm afraid I'll get really upset if he says his name at that moment plus my FI's grandparents have passed away also so we've chosen to keep it general. I hope this helps!
Posted by rdr716[/QUOTE]
I agree with this. It doesn't have to be anything big.

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sweetbrat89

Thank you everyone