May 2013 Weddings

To Wear or Not To Wear?

I recently graduated with my masters degree in December and have been applying and interviewing for jobs even before that. I went straight to graduate school after undergraduate so the only experience I have is from my graduate assistantship. My degree is in Higher Education and many jobs are hard to come by since they tend to be jobs everyone loves to stay in esp. in the state system in PA because you are paid very well. As I have stated I have interviewed and applied to many places. When I am interviewing I tend to fold my hands and hide my ring because I have read articles talking about young women being engaged and how that turns off many employers. (even though that is discrimination) The last interview I was on, I did the same thing in folding my hands, when the interviewer took me on a tour she noticed the ring and asked if I was engaged. I said yes and told her that we were planning for a long engagement and wanted to get our careers figured out before setting a date.(Actually, we have it picked out, but that was none of her business really) I did not get the job and have been thinking about her comment for asking me. I recieved a call from prestigious college to interview for a position this upcoming Thursday. I am second guessing if I should wear my ring or not. I don't want them to question me and my ability/experience. The school is very well known, but the pay is not great at all. The interviewer when she called me said she saw on my resume I have a masters degree and wanted to remind me this is for an entry level position meaning not that great of pay. I am fine by that because it is close to my fiance and his family, as well a full time position since my current job is part time. I have read when women wear flashy rings and carry certain purses or bags that tends to make employers think twice about the potential candidate. Have any of you experienced this. What have you done with your ring when interviewing. I feel naked without it now when I take it off even when I shower. I am afraid also what if I was to get offered the position and show up the first day with my ring on( which I would) what will they think?
Wedding Countdown Ticker

Re: To Wear or Not To Wear?

  • edited March 2012
    I would still wear it. Personally, I would not want to work for someone who would choose not to hire me because I am engaged. Plus, if you get the job, your coworkers are going to find out soon enough that you are engaged and might ask you the details about when/how it happened. IMO it is better to be honest about it in the first place. Hopefully people will judge you based on your qualifications and personally, and not your relationship status. Good luck!
    Wedding Countdown Ticker
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_may-2013-weddings_to-wear-or-not-to-wear?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:ea657a87-d1dc-4588-999f-31c9deeef720Discussion:5f6fa94d-1d76-4b7a-bd64-4ca9f71b9694Post:20e8b969-f699-4cd5-b0e6-a1d188117be6">Re: To Wear or Not To Wear?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I would still wear it. Personally, I would not want to work for someone who would choose not to hire me because I am engaged. Plus, if you get the job, your coworkers are going to find out soon enough that you are engaged and might ask you the details about when/how it happened. IMO it is better to be honest about it in the first place. Hopefully people will judge you based on your qualifications and personally, and not your relationship status. Good luck!
    Posted by aprahamian2[/QUOTE]

    I agree
  • I also agree with the PP... Good Luck!!!
    May 2013 January Siggy Challenge:The Cake!!!
    cake4
    Follow Me on Pinterest
    Wedding Countdown Ticker
  • I think it depends on how extravagant the ring is.  If the ring is huge, people might think that you don't really "need" the job... sad, but true.  If it's a normal size ring, I don't think it's a problem.  Statistically, married people make more money than single people, so I don't think being engaged is the problem with wearing an engagement ring to a job interview.  

    May 2013 February Siggy: Invitations

    image

    Wedding Countdown Ticker

  • Thanks everyone, my ring has a somewhat high setting, so at times it does make it look larger then it is plus it is a 3 stoned. I should have probably mentioned it is a position that i would be traveling a lot for. I have no problem with traveling and being away from my fiance because he travels as well and we have been in a long distance relationship most of our dating/engagment.
    Wedding Countdown Ticker
  • I agree with everyone else. I've gone for many interviews and once my kids are mentioned I can feel a shift in the interview. People seem to think I'm a risk because of my kids... Sad but true. It was suggested to me by a head hunter that I don't mention kids, even if asked but if I got the job they'd find out eventually and I don't want to be labeled a liar. Be honest, wear your ring proudly!
    May 2013 October Siggy - The Honeymoon Walt Disney & Daytona Beach imageFollow Me on Pinterest
  • Wow this is a tough issue. I would agree, wear your ring and don't let them make a big deal out of it. You're going to want to wear it once you start working, so I would agree with the other ladies and say just go for it. Own it, be proud, and hopefully others will realize that being engaged is not grounds for discrimination.
    Visit The Knot! Visit The Nest! Wedding Countdown Ticker
This discussion has been closed.
Choose Another Board
Search Boards