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jweis11

I have always heard "you make your true friends in college" but lately, I have felt like I've made some aquitances in college who will be your facebook friends but besides that you will not have anything to do with them after you left the apartment you all shared. (haha)I'm just feeling a bit down that my college friends did not pan out the way I wanted them to...So ladies who have been to college....are you guys still close or just hanging on to the memories?

slm13

I have no friends from college. Honestly. My BF from college hasn't spoken to me in 3 years - I have no idea why either. I straight out asked her and she never responded. Now, my friends from grad school - who I was with everyday for 5 years, 9 hours a day, that is a different story. Three of them I talk to on FB (we're in different parts of the country), and my BFF/MOH and I email, talk, and IM a lot.

jweis11

Yeah, I guess I just feel bitter. I had a college friend in my wedding and I'm not in hers (which I'm ok with) I just saw on fbook another girl that I never thought she would ask over me...ya know its petty but sometimes feelings can't be helpedthen on another roomate's page I saw that she had pics from being in pittsburgh and I never knew she was even in town :/It's fine...I was just hoping to get "my true friends" but ,honestly, "my true friends" turned out to be from highschool, family, or people I Have met since college

slm13

Jess - I'm the same way. I'm still close to one friend from HS that I've been close to the entire time we were in college and beyond. I reconnected with one of my closest friends from HS on FB (not sure why we drifted apart after HS). We've picked up where we left off. So my good friends are mostly from HS or grad school.

jweis11

yeah, well thank you shannon for supporting the fact that the quote is crap

bel138

Sometimes I feel like a failure in the female friend department. In early high school, I had really good female friends that I hung out with and could say anything to. From there, I've become more and more a loner.Of my college girlfriends, I feel like each one has a different "purpose," which sounds terrible. But there's only one I can talk about sex to. And there's one I can go and do crazy drinking with. And there's one who's girly. But the purposes rarely mix, and they really aren't friends with each other. My med school friends I realize now that I was only friends with due to proximity and shared misery.I feel like I would be a lot closer with my MOH if she didn't live in CA, and I feel that we could be the type of friends that hangs out a lot and can say anything and know all the random things about each other's lives. But when I only get to talk to her once a week or every two weeks, we just don't have time to talk about the minutiae. My mom was the same way, though. She had women I knew she was friends with, no matter the distance or time since they spoke. But she didn't go and hang out with them all the time.I honestly really struggled with selecting BMs. I feel like a serious failure in the friend department.

jweis11

ya know (and I"m trying to remember this myself) we all go in different directions. Doesn't mean that we did anything bad to our friends, things and people sometimes change even though it sucks no matter what end of the stick you are at on this topic

SteelrsGrl92

Im the same way with female friends...I think I have 3 or 4 really good female friends that I can truly trust and the others are just aquaintences. I honestly find it hard to trust girls, I have had so many 'friends' just turn their backs it sucks!

cobrien1976

Bel, I have the same friend situation as you do, 3 different girls that I tell different things to and we all rarely hang out at the same time, it is usually very uncomfortable when we do. I remain friends with several girls from my suedo college and after 10 years of not talking to a lot of my HS BFF, we are now friends again, thanks to FB and we talk at least several times a week.  Most of my HS friends have kids so that is the only thing I can't relate to them about. 

jennybean2010

oddly, i do find that statement to be true for myself. but i'm typically the odd one out. i have a few close friends. my closest i met in college. i'm not friends with anyone from HS anymore, except for one girl..and it tends to be a hot/cold friendship. i've learned to let friends fade in and out of my life and realize that some people are only meant to be in your life at certain times for certain reasons. like it's gods way of providing you with what you need to get through certain times in your life. and once those times have passed, those friends kind of float away. i'm sure it sounds weird though. but it's how i look at it.

SteelrsGrl92

Im heading to bed ladies. Night 'see you' all tomorrow!

king26

My closest friends currently are all from high school.  Actually 2 I've known since elementary school, and one since junior high.  I did have a pretty tight knit group of friends in college, there were 5 of us, we still send Christmas cards, go to each other's weddings, and occasionally e-mail, but it's nothing like the friends I made in my earlier years.

KRMac

Jess, I feel like I've been struggling with this a bit too lately.  I thought I had made a close group of friends in college, but I only really keep up with 3 of them now...and only my BFF and I talk a few times a week and she is moving to Jordan next fall.  I hate to make everything about me, but WTH am I supposed to do when she is gone?  I am still friends with my HS/childhood friends, but we are all spread out over the country, so it just makes it so hard.I really need a few good girlfriends here.  Sigh. 

jweis11

aww KR :(I'm sorry hear that. I do have a BFF also and if she moved to Jordan I would be so upset. I just hate that life gets in the way with friendships. :/If you don't mind me asking, why is she moving to Jordan?

jlbaxter33

Sorry, I'm a little late... I only have about 2 friends from college... one dates my best friend from HS and the other I see once in a while (like once a year if that). The others are just facebook friends. I realized that they were mostly going out friends. I had one very good friend in college, and I lost touch with her after college and felt very guilty. I found her on facebook and was very excited and talked to her and realized that I had NOTHING to talk to her about. Our lives are very different right now. My best friends in the whole world are girls (and a gay guy) from elementary school, middle school and high school. I love them, even though they live in Pittsburgh and I'm in DC. We are very close.

Er&JerLem

My BF from college hasn't spoken to me in 3 years - I have no idea why either. I straight out asked her and she never responded.Did we have the same BF in college?  Seriously - same thing happened to me.  She just stop talking to me, I asked her what was going on, and nothing... nice.Anyway - I really don't have good friends from college.  Most of mine are from HS or I met after I graduated.  I don't have a lot of good girl friends.  I never really have, I guess.  I have a really small core group of good friends.

hey_its_jenn

In HS, I had a really close knit group of friends.  We stayed in touch during the first and second year of college and then lost touch.  I saw my BF from HS 3 weeks before my wedding - 2 weeks before she was leaving for England for 2 years.  We talk via FB but even that's hard because of the time difference.I made some great friends in college but I went to school out in Philly so most of them are from the Philly and NJ area.  I see them when I get out there which is once a year - if I'm lucky.  I have one girl BF who was my MOH that I can count on no matter what.  We can go weeks or months without talking to each other and just pick up right where we left off.  I love her dearly and I know when I need to talk/rant/vent, she's there to listen.  But growing up through HS and even college, I had more guy friends than girlfriends.  They are just easier to deal with IMHO.  They don't play mind games.  They tell you what they're thinking.  They get pissed at you and then get over it.  I talk to 3 of DH's GMs more than he does.  I just get along better with guys.  It's like in my wiring or something... haha.

KRMac

If you don't mind me asking, why is she moving to Jordan?Her FI will be on an assignment there for work for 2.5-3 years.  He is in Iraq now until July, then they are getting married in August and then moving in October, most likely. 

jweis11

jenn- yeah, I have always liked being friend with guys more! A lot less drama. My current friends are my cousin who is and always will be my BFF. Another girl who is a very good friend but often A LOT of drama and very high maintance and I don't have time for that crap and An old  co-worker who is now one of my best friends. I think guys are just easier to deal with!KR- that stinks I don't know how I could ever do that. I had a hard time moving out of the same township as my parents

KimWard

My 3 best girlfriends were my BMs. They all live in Pgh, but we are still close, and I miss them dearly. One I met in first grade, and the other two I met because their dad and grandfather lived on the same street as my grandfather, and I was always over there. I do find the saying about college friends to be true, though my guy friends and girl friends are about equal. Remember though that I am not too far removed from my college days (graduated in 2008). The thing I miss most about college is being able to walk a block or 2 to randomly hang out, have dinner, walk around Erie, etc. I really, really miss that. Thankfully one college friend goes to seminary around here, and we are meeting some new people.

KRMac

The thing I miss most about college is being able to walk a block or 2 to randomly hang out, have dinner, walk around Erie, etc. I really, really miss that.I miss that too, Kim.  And it makes me think though - was I just friends with them because it was so EASY to be friends with them?  Because we were always hanging out and doing things together?  And now it is just too hard, so it makes it not worth it?  IDK.

skybluejen

Me and my best friend from college/roommate of four years no longer speak. We had a huge falling out my senior year and haven't spoken in 2+ years. Its sad, really.I do, however, have an amazing group of girlfriends that I consider my "college friends", though one is my BFF of 20 years, and another is technically a friend from HS. The 6 of us were inseperable my senior year of college and we've stayed so close since. We live all over the country now, but we email each other almost every day. They are my sanity!When I was in HS I always had tons of guy friends, but as I got older I've found I get so much more out of my friendships with my girlfriends.