Piggy-backing on the QOTD...

MamaBear904

So the QOTD got me wondering... what would one thing be that FI could change of you?

Annas2013

Haha oh lord.  Probably my OCD tendencies.  I tend to overplan.  My planner is color-coded and I don't like deviating from plans I've already made.  Spontaneity isn't really something I'm good at and a lot of change at once makes me uncomfortable.  He'd probably wish I was more laid-back if he could.

MamaBear904

I think FI would say its my self-image. I'm very hard on myself and always talk myself down. Part of it is me validating how I feel, part of it is me looking for reassurance. Either way, I do it waay too often and I know it drives him nuts.

That, and I'm ADD and am very forgetful of small insignificant things. For example, I come home after work, change into regular clothes then walk back out of the room, forgetting that I left my work clothes on the bed. LOL

shano06

Lol. Two things. My spending and doing things at the last minute. I love to shop, go out for drinks and all that. I mean hey I'm 23. I do make sure the kids and bills are taken care of first before I spend so that's not the problem. The problem is that FI would like me to save more. He thinks about the future, I think about right now. This wedding is the most I've saved ever lol. I do have a stash for emergencies but FI said it's only for small ones lol. We work it out though.

SRRL18

My forgetfullness. I forget things daily, it's horrible, at least it's never reall the big important thigns that I forget.

turtleslove

I know he wishes I would shut up sometimes lol. I am always on his ass about what he forgot, what I need him to do, bills and other items. I am sure he hates it, but if I don't keep on him who will?  

deviousmuse

I would stop looking for opportunities to debate just to debate... he HATES arguing, and I see it as an opportunity to explore different positions.

And to coincide with that, my need to always be right. I've even been nicknamed "Darcepedia" because of it.

beckyh77

FI would say that I need to not be so hard on myself and to have more patience. Good luck dude.

DivaJenD

Ha. Several things... My lack of motivation to work out... My need to always have an opinion on everything... My need to always play devil's advocate (he sees it as argumentative)... My need to please other people and go above and beyond all the time - especially for family... The fact that I think the world is a world of gray (he sees everything in black and white terms)... I'm sure there's more, but that's just off the top of my head.

MrsBad13

No you didnt...lol I think he would want to change how I spend money. Like Shano..I pay my half of the bills and make sure kids are taken care of then the mall, dots,debs, amazon, and where ever else is where I be. Lol Also probably my smart mouth. I have a mean mouth piece lol. Im working on it tho lol

RebCappon

No patience on my end. And I tend to get snappy sometimes when things aren't going the way I want.

SSaltzman87

I know there are times when FI says I make him feel stupid. So probably my need to correct him when he says/does something wrong, of course I try to bring these things up when friends and family aren't around since my goal isn't to humiliate him- but he gets upset when I bring it up in the nicest way possible.

aprahamian2

Probably that I nag about the things he otherwise would forget about...homework, cleaning, bills, etc. I can't just not bring things up b/c it stresses me out when they don't get done.

Sundaylou

The fact that I stress about EVERYTHING. Money is a huge one. Especially with the wedding coming up. I refuse to touch our savings unless it is really important (i.e. we are late on a bill or one of our cars need work etc.). I try really hard not to spend any more than I have to which means I don't go out and have fun as much as I should. What can I say though? We are doing everything on our own and I want to make sure we have enough to cover all our wants and needs next year.

melb2013

I'm a huge over-reactor... I'm sure he dislikes that.

rswans

I like to think things over before I say them or do them and he wishes I would bring things up in the moment. That also ties in with him wishing I was more decisive, though I am in a way, I usually just want another opinion on something.

TogetherPerfect

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[QUOTE]<strong>I think FI would say its my self-image. I'm very hard on myself and always talk myself down. Part of it is me validating how I feel, part of it is me looking for reassurance. Either way, I do it waay too often and I know it drives him nuts</strong>. That, and I'm ADD and am very forgetful of small insignificant things. For example, I come home after work, change into regular clothes then walk back out of the room, forgetting that I left my work clothes on the bed. LOL
Posted by MamaBear904[/QUOTE]

This. Exactly.

SL815

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[QUOTE]I would stop looking for opportunities to debate just to debate... he HATES arguing, and I see it as an opportunity to explore different positions. And to coincide with that, my need to always be right. I've even been nicknamed "Darcepedia" because of it.
Posted by deviousmuse[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>This!  Except he calls me 'Laura the Lawyer' ha.  He is just so stubborn and once he makes up his mind, that's it and I like to talk things out and 'explain' myself or my side or and he thinks I sound like a lawyer giving a closing arguement, ha.  He would probably also like me to get to the point a little quicker.  I have a tendency to ramble on (trying to prove my point).  

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SL815

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_may-2013-weddings_piggy-backing-on-the-qotd?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:ea657a87-d1dc-4588-999f-31c9deeef720Discussion:a395d0d9-46b7-4a86-ac09-baadaa5dd412Post:7fef6b4a-1bce-4eb3-bad4-2c335110392f">Re: Piggy-backing on the QOTD...</a>:
[QUOTE]I would stop looking for opportunities to debate just to debate... he HATES arguing, and I see it as an opportunity to explore different positions. And to coincide with that, my need to always be right. I've even been nicknamed "Darcepedia" because of it.
Posted by deviousmuse[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>This!  Except he calls me 'Laura the Lawyer' ha.  He is just so stubborn and once he makes up his mind, that's it and I like to talk things out and 'explain' myself or my side or and he thinks I sound like a lawyer giving a closing arguement, ha.  He would probably also like me to get to the point a little quicker.  I have a tendency to ramble on (trying to prove my point).  

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My sensitivity...he says I cry all the time over nothing lol. Idk why but I cry when I'm happy, mad and sad!

Ggoughen

I talk a lot. But, when I'm upset I will sometimes bottle it up and then explode over something ridiculous because I don't want to create conflict. Also, I interrupt him while he's talking about work to bring up something about my day. Poor guy can't even complain to me some days. I'm a work in progress!