Feelin' a little down about our wedding

melb2013

FI's parents and sister went to their cousin's wedding last night.  We couldn't go, but I asked them to take pictures so I could see.  FSIL sent me pictures of the wedding and said that this cousin had "cut a lot of corners" and that she would call me to tell me about it this week.  FI talked to his mom and while he didn't get a whole lot of info about the wedding (he's a guy-he didn't really care), the only positive thing she had to say about the wedding was that there was a huge cocktail hour with tons of food and she liked that.  

The pictures showed decor that I couldn't even dream of affording.  From the look of the wedding, I can't imagine where they could have possibly "cut corners".  Seriously, this was a luxury wedding.  It makes me sad that they think that something so opulent could be 'cuttting corners" in their eyes.  And we're having passed apps and two stationary apps at our cockatil hour, which is #1 what we can afford and #2 all I think is necessary.

Just whining here and feeling a little sad for myself.  I feel like we're spending a lot of money on our wedding, but it's not even half of what FI's family is used to.  Am I going to do this whole wedding thing and have none of his family like it?

Annas2013

It doesn't matter if his family likes it or thinks it's "nice".  What matters is that you get to marry your FI, you host your guests well, and it's what you can afford.  You don't have to spend a ton of money for a nice wedding. There will always be people that complain about something you do.  That's just how weddings seem to go.  

Don't let it bother you.  Your wedding will be beautiful and fun and nice all on the budget you and your FI have.  

Danny&Mel2003

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[QUOTE]It doesn't matter if his family likes it or thinks it's "nice".  What matters is that you get to marry your FI, you host your guests well, and it's what you can afford.  You don't have to spend a ton of money for a nice wedding. There will always be people that complain about something you do.  That's just how weddings seem to go.   Don't let it bother you.  Your wedding will be beautiful and fun and nice all on the budget you and your FI have.  
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This. People will always throw there 2 cents in even when its not needed. I'm sure with everything your planning it will be amazingly beautiful!

SSaltzman87

In short, they can suck it if they don't like what you guys are planning. They sound incredibly selfish and petty.

At the end of the day, the only thing that matters is you and FI being married and excited to start your new life together.

zubrod1

Who cares what anyone else thinks; enjoy your day! Dance, smile, and marry the man of your dreams; I'm sure your wedding is going to be beautiful

Sharpschruter22

Ditto what everyone else said. If your fiance's family wants things done a certain way then THEY can pay for it. If they aren't paying then their complaints are only petty.

SRRL18

Seriously, there has got to be something wrong with these people. Are they crazy rich?

You're wedding will be beautiful. If will be a reflection of who you and your FI are, not a statement of what you can afford. Your wedding will stylish and classy, not a show. I don't understand people that feel the need to show off.

MamaBear904

I know its easy for us to all say "forget what other people think" but that's hard when its our special day. We want everyone to love it as much as we will. I too have been a bit depressed lately, worrying about my wedding feeling "cheap" beacuse of corners I KNOW I will be cutting.

From the description it sounds like they were overly judgemental and don't know how expensive weddings can be. Also, keep in mind, this is what you heard from FIs conversation with FMIL, you did not hear it directly. Maybe there were other mitigating factors that made her feel that way.

Outsiders really just have no idea what we (as brides) have to go through to pull an event like this off and to do it with limited funds. We are all going to do the best that we can for what we have available to us and that will HAVE to be good enough.

((hugs))

melb2013

Thank, Ladies!  I was being a little silly last night.  They were definitely being petty in their judgements.  I realize that not everybody can like our wedding, but I do wish our in-laws would appreciate it more than I think they will.  At the end of the day, it has to be what we like and I know my family and our friends will enjoy it.