So my mom basically flipped out on me last night when I was at work when she called. Basically something money related came up that they were paying for for my sister and refused to ever pay for for me. So she flipped out saying how I was lucky they pay for anything and how they pay for my apartment and my food and just deposited money into my bank account. Actually, they pay for the same for my sister. And the check was the refund from my school and had my name on it, I was going to use it for rent/bills/food. I told her I had to get back to work and wasn't going to discuss this anymore and she threatened me to not start with her and hung up.
I thought it was over til this morning when she called again. This time she basically told me I was rude and they were refinancing the house to pay for my wedding. I've never been told that seeing as how my dad said it was to pay for my sister and I both being in school at the same time. She then goes on to say how I'm lucky they didn't just tell us to elope and how they pay for everything and I'm a horrible person basically. Plus about the thing they were paying for for my sister? It's not like I'm good enough to get into it anyway according to her.
Honestly if we didn't already have deposits down we would just elope. But we have deposits down for the cake and venue and photographer. I don't know what to do because she's still taking over (like she's already talked to the florist about what she wants for flowers and bouquets and stuff). There is no middle ground with her. Any ideas what to do?