Wedding Nightmare (already.!) and Photog Issue. LONG.

shano06

Last night. I woke up sweating, like really. Lol. So it was my wedding day, and the morning went fine, afternoon, everything went fine. We got through the ceremony, and it wsnt until we were walking out of our ceremony space and everybody was cheering that I realized we ddnt have a photographer.! OMG. I stopped in my tracks and started crying at first, then I went to the side and started yelling. FI was like whts going on.?? I said where the HELL is our photographer.?! Idk why it took me tht long to notice that they weren't there, but when I realized, I was peed off. FI says dnt worry, we'll get our money back, lets go to the reception. I'm like dnt worry.?! The pics are all we have left after the wedding.! The memories.! My SIL came to get me and said calm down lets go in the reception room, its pretty. The reception room was very very pretty, I actually hope it looks like that on the real day.! Lol. The dream skipped to us eating dinner. Me and FI were not at our sweetheart table, we were at the table with his best woman(his sister) and his SIL. I look back like why aren't we at our table.?? Nobody answered. So I never knew the answer to that question cause I woke up. It dsnt sound so bad written down but it was BAD. Lol.

I told FI I had this dream because we are between photographers. We have this great professional photog who is going to give us 6hrs on the day and an engagement photo session for $900. (WHAT.?!) Crazy cheap. He's a freelance, and he's frikkin awesome. Its so cheap cuz we're not getting an album. FI and I are going to make our own. Then we have my uncle who's not really my uncle, he's just been around that long. (you know how that goes) He went to school with my mom and aunts and uncles, and he just so happens to work with FI. He is a freelance photographer part time, but only does cabarets, parties, he's done graduation parties and bar mitzvah's and Quinceanera's..stuff like that. Never done a wedding. Even thought I know he wouldn't screw me over and give me bad pictures, I'm kind of scared that he won't get the little detail pics, like my dress and the rings, and the reception site details tht I know the professional would get. My uncle is charging us only $300 for photo and video. Thts the day of and engagement pics. I've never seen his video and will make it a point to. I'm just scared it won't be the quality that I want. I have faith in his pictures, its just this is my wedding day, you know.?? We need to make a decision, cuz I wanted to take our EPics in September when the leaves change on the trees. Idk what to do.

Srry for the essay. Lol.

melb2013

Sounds like you need to get that photography issue settled STAT!  I had a wedding nightmare where I didn't have my shoes or my jewelry and all I could think about the whole time was how ridiculous it was that I was barefoot when I had gorgeous shoes somewhere.  LOL

ptobias45

It sounds like you want the first photographer..the $900 one. Did you ask your 'uncle' or did he offer it himself? You could always try playing it off that you want him to enjoy your day and not worry about taking pictures and just attend as a guest.

Sundaylou

Sounds like you really need to figure out your photographer! I would say, if the first photographer fits in your budget then you should probably go with him. That way you know you won't miss out on any of those little details being photographed. I agree with playing it off like you don't want your 'uncle' missing any of the wedding.

jenjlgsings

If your "uncle" is that close to the family would he be invited anyway?  Will there be hard feelings if he isn't chosen?  Maybe you could hire the first photographer and have your uncle just take some candids at the wedding or do some video as a gift to you or something?  Play it off that you want him to be able to enjoy the day?

Personally, I'd pay the more experienced professional.  I've seen too  many friends who went with a friend of family member and regretted it afterwards.

And, for what its worth, even if a photographer didn't show up, I bet there would be some beautiful pictures from your guests.  One friend of mine HATED her pictures (I do admit, they were awful) and most of the pictures she has hanging in her house and in the album her and her husband made were from digital files that guests shared with her.