Planning again!

Alexis&Jay

In the beginning I planned so much that I crashed. But now that the year mark is here I'm back and ready for action!!

The number one frustration I have is that my FI isn't giving his opinion when I ask for it. When I bring things up he's either disinterested or disagrees. i know the wedding is for the bride, butI'd like a little input. I suppose if a relationship can make it through the stress of planning a wedding it can make it through anything! HAHA

Any other ladies have FI who are less than involved in the planning process?If so how do you deal with it?

[Deleted User]

Join the club! The only thing my FI cares about is the cost. I told him he better not wait until the wedding day to give me input!

FLGatorGal88

My FI was like that when I asked for his opinions so I decided I would narrow it down to 2 or 3 things and let him choose... It's worked like a charm for me... I don't tell FI the price because he tends to be unrealistic at times... i.e I asked how much does he want to stay around for our flowers for the ceremony and reception he said 80 dollars... I told him to be realistic and the sad part was he was Smh... Bless his heart lol

SRRL18

Honeslty, I was given this advice once. If he cares, he will tell you. If he doens't leave it be.

jenniferbrito

That's ruff! fortunately FI is very involved and excited just as much as I am. He wants to be a part of every decision I am very thankful that he dosent give me a hard time about our wedding. I think a wedding shouldn't be just about the bride but about the bride and groom and the celebration of your marriage. but on the other hand some men are just like that, they just want to show up to the wedding and that's ok to, but I could imagine that it would get frustrating. 

Swazzle

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[QUOTE]In the beginning I planned so much that I crashed. But now that the year mark is here I'm back and ready for action!! The number one frustration I have is that my FI isn't giving his opinion when I ask for it. When I bring things up he's either disinterested or disagrees.<strong> i know the wedding is for the bride</strong>, butI'd like a little input. I suppose if a relationship can make it through the stress of planning a wedding it can make it through anything! HAHA Any other ladies have FI who are less than involved in the planning process?If so how do you deal with it?
Posted by Alexis&Jay[/QUOTE]

<div>No. The wedding is for the bride AND groom to become husband and wife TOGETHER and then celebrate that union with their friends & family (if they so choose, of course).  </div><div>
</div><div>Maybe he really just doesn't have an opinion on the things you're asking him about.  My FI couldn't care less about flowers but I would never plan out the menu for our reception without him.  Pick and choose your battles. </div>

SSaltzman87

My FI just wants to be 'in the loop'. He's not too picky about things, like PPs- only thing he cares about is how much it'll cost. And of course he wants to go to tastings, lol.

No matter what, don't push things on him and constantly ask for his opinion-you'll just piss him off. Guys for the most part aren't concerned about most of the details that go into a wedding. Like Rachel said, pick your battles. 

melb2013

I'm always asking FI's opinion, but he doesn't particurly care what anything looks like... or really about anything related to wedding except that he's the one who wanted one.

mymissingpuzzlepiece

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[QUOTE]In Response to Planning again! : No. The wedding is for the bride AND groom to become husband and wife TOGETHER and then celebrate that union with their friends & family (if they so choose, of course).   
Posted by rdr716[/QUOTE]

<div>I second this. I really hate when people exclude the groom. This is going to be a silly example but like in the show My Fair Wedding with David Tutera, and the whole planning process is all about the bride. Well what about the groom? The guy always says, "It is her day and I just want her to be happy." Do they really feel this way? I call bullsh!t here. It is a day to celebrate both the bride and the groom, I mean they are getting married to each other not to themselves. 
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</div><div>My FI and I plan every aspect out together. He has an opinion about every little thing and I think that is so important. We are both equally excited about this wedding. </div>

Alexis&Jay

thanks for all the input everyone! I finally found something that is driving FI crazy, haha. I've decided that not only am I not going to let him see me in my wedding dress before the wedding, I am not giong to let him see the dress AT ALL! i want the maximum effect possible when he sees me walking down the aisle. Anyone esle keeping their dress a secret?