My MOH is throwing me a shower. She has asked for a guest list. FMIL told FI who told me that she would like to come, as well as her MIL (FI's grandmother) and her SIL (FI's aunt and same grandmother's daughter). All of these women are out of town (from VT). I was planning to invite all of my female family members who are all local.
Should other women in FI's family such as his other aunt, and grandmother, and his cousin's fiance be invited as well? Because FMIL asked to come to what is mostly my family's shower (i.e. all attendants are related to me) I am assuming that there won't be another one with FI's family. Therefore should I add these other women to the list or should I ask FMIL if they should be invited?
Do you invite people to a shower even though you know they won't be coming as a nice gesture or does it look gift grabby?
TIA!