When it rains, it pours!

littleshrink

Both FI and I have been totally stressed out at our jobs lately trying to get so many things done prior to the wedding and taking time off.  So we got home last night exhausted and ready to take our furbabies for a walk and workout.  Right before we go we get a call from FI's best friend (GM).  His mom died yesterday morning completely unexpected.  FI thinks of her as his 2nd mom and just loves her.  We're not sure when the funeral is but he is absolutely torturing himself over whether or not to go.  FI's hometown is in CA - which is also where the wedding is that we are headed down there in two weeks.  He is completely swamped at work, and goes "on call" shift next week - which is also when best friend figured the funeral would be.  He is just so torn on what to do.  To fly down for a couple of days to return - finish his on call shift - then leve a few days later for our wedding?  Any thoughts knotties?

We decided to take our furbabies for a walk do our usual workout.  Get home and FI's nephew calls wondering if he can bring his new girlfriend.  Essentially RSVPing a month after the date of RSVP for an additional one.  Urgh.  As morbid as this sounds, with best friends mom not going to be at the wedding essentially we have the room, it's just the principal of it all.  Nephew also said he wouldn't bring her if it was going to be a huge inconvience, but he still asked and of course still wants her to come.  Geez......

On my sunny side however....3 weeks to go!!!

knottieeafa1bb2d69fa208

Ugh you poor thing. Try to focus on the sunny side. While I haven't had any recent deaths (thank God) I too have been swamped with work and had a million things happen right now when I'm three weeks out. It's crazy. 

ladychambers83

Aww so sorry to hear. Stay positive. Wish I had more advice for FI

bpphoto785

That's terrible! I'm so sorry for your loss!!

I would have FI talk to his work. If you can afford it and they don't put up too much of a stink, since it's technically not a relative, I would definitely go. I hope everything works out!

If it's not a huge inconvenience to have FI's nephew's girlfriend then go for it, but with everything you have going on I wouldn't go out of your way for his last minute request.

Melissa51212

Thoughts and prayers sent your and fi way!

mancila60

Personally with FMIL being sick and knowing FI's best friend doesn't live here I know FI would want him to be here for the funeral. But maybe he just needs to talk to his friend and see what he wants also since your FI is so close I'm sure he wants to be there. You need to let it be his decision!

littleshrink

Of course it's my FI's decision and I stand behind him.  He is feeling so torn what to do and his best friend just said he understood either way.  We both know that isn't true and that is what is tearing FI apart.  I've been checking on airline tickets this morning and of course they are awful high, but that is not the point.  FI just feels he has so many responsibilities here and there and knows that he can't be in both at the same time. 

mandi921vh

Sending you family Knottie Vibes!

How old is your nephew? If he is over 18 I would allow him to bring his GF if you are able to.

COSmitty

Depending on where you are flying from check southwest airlines flights. They may be high but they usually don't skyrocket as much as other airlines. I hope he can make it out.

littleshrink

If only SouthWest flew in our area....we wouldn't have to worry about the cost.  But unfortunately we have 2 airlines (small town living y'all!).  United & Delta.  One is just under $1,000 and the other is $1,200.  We're not trying to get wrapped up in the cost of it all...but those amounts hurt!

robinandtimmy

I am so sorry about your loss and send my love and thought and prayers to your FI.  Two years ago we thought my mother was going to die, I was in Las Vegas at the time and that is were she lives, all my friends were on the east coast.  None of them had anything as big as a wedding planned and I knew if she did die most of them would not be able to make it for the funeral.  My best firned (MOH) flew out here to be with me when mom was sick.  Luckly, she got better and is doing amazing.  My point is I believe FI"s friend should understand, and his mother (in heaven) understands if he can't make it.  If he can that is great and will be wonderful for his friend.  He should not feel bad if he can't.  If he can't then maybe if you have time the 1st day or two go to the grave and pay respects.