Bridal Shower :(

tking1286

So, I keep reading about how everyone has already had or is about to have their bridal shower. It is kind of stressing me out a bit. My mom wants to plan it but I haven't heard anything about it. I am going to be send out wedding invitations in the next few weeks and I think it would be weird to get the wedding invitation before the shower invitation. I don't want to interrogate my mom since it might be a surprise but I am just worried nothing is being done. I know the invitations have not gone out because I gave my mom the invitations I bought and they are still sitting on their dining room table, which would have been used for the wedding but we needed more so I just gave them to my mom for the bridal shower. I guess I was just hoping I would know or at least hear something about it. Just worried it won't happen. Does anyone else not know much about their bridal shower?

justanotherbride

I sent out my wedding invitations before my shower invitations went out.. so I don't think that is too much to worry about. Do you have bridesmaids? Can they help your mom?

tking1286

I have 5, which includes my mom. I gave my mom their emails but I haven't heard anything. I don't want to be too nosy in case it is a surprise. 

vineyard12

My mom hasn't said a peep about my shower. Nor has my MOH. And no one has asked me for guest list either. I am sure I will have one, but with everyone talking about theirs, it's making me a little envious. My SIL's was a surprise, and I am sure she never expected one because she had a DW to St Thomas and a lot of her family couldn't go. But, my mom and her mom gave her one. So, I assume I will have one.

Maybe yours will be a surprise, too?

dori851

I wouldn't bring it up at all. I wouldn't expect that you will have a shower either. No one "has" to throw you a shower. If you have a shower, great. But if not, that's okay too. I wouldn't let it bother you too much.

leopardgurl831

I know about the one my mom is throwing, but I don't know much besides the date for the one my FI's step mom is throwing.  I haven't even given her all the address of ppl yet so I know invites havne't gone out yet, and the wedding invites will go out before.

You can always ask your mom and see if she needs help or anything.

AurorasEnvy

I agree, it doesn't matter when the shower invites go out in relation to the wedding invites.  And if it did, I think the opposite would be weird - not to have the wedding invitation but be invited to the shower, since some guests might not be sure if they were invited to the wedding or not.

Like dori said, unfortunately no one is obligated to throw you a shower.  But maybe it will just be a surprise!  That isn't common in my area (I'd never heard of a surprise shower before) but a lot of girls on here are posting about not knowing much about theirs, either.

fluttaby32

I tend to think wedding invites before shower invites would be a GOOD thing. At least everyone knows for certain they are invited to the wedding when they get the shower invite!

LBug24

I hadn't heard a word about my shower, but it's also a little more customary here for "surprise showers".. maybe they're trying to keep it a surprise?

I just learned last week that my shower is going to be the saturday BEFORE (1 week) my wedding.  I have very mixed feelings about it, but one of my BMs is in law school and can't come out until that weekend.. Woof. Anyways, I can't complain.. they're throwing ME a party, i'll just be grateful.

Maybe you're just having a late shower

Melissa51212

As I posted before I have no clue either...but I know that they been working and have sent out the invites. Have your registered stalked? I know it's bad but it might give you a clue when or if it is happening. I have a strong feeling mine is tomorrow but I'm trying not to et to excited just in case it is not.

mandi921vh

I sent out wedding invites on Monday and I am pretty sure my shower invites haven't gone out... it's a surprise but I am pretty certain my sister just ordered the invites...

Honestly, I wouldn't worry about it.