So I know you all asked me to keep you updated on FMIL so here is the latest after a series of appointments and some "family" meetings.
On Monday they did another more detailed MRI on her brain. They also released her from the hospital as the reason she came in was fixed. FI and I picked her up and got her settled at home.
On Tuesday we found out the results of the MRI from the day before. They showed her to have not 5 but 9 spots on her brain which ruled that they would need to do full brain radiation instead of just certain spots.
Wednesday FI and FMIL went to her doctor appointment to figure out what the plan would be and to get questions answered. They said that if this didn't work that they would not be doing full brain radiation again. There is a chance of it coming up somewhere else in her body (already in her lungs and liver) which they would have to re elvaluate her 5 weeks after the treatment was done.
She would do 2 treatments a day at 5 days a week for 3 weeks starting next week. 5 weeks after that they will do another scan and then take things from there. If she doesn't do treatment she would not make it to our wedding (May 19) and things would go very quickly for her. She is going to do treatment!
The doctor has said for her NOT to drive and NOT to be alone. Unfortunately she lives alone since her and FFIL are divorced and both FI and FBIL have moved out. FI's grandmother has offered for her to come stay at her house which would work except she has a cat and FBIL won't take it. Grandmother won't take it since she has a small dog and I'm allergic to cats. FMIL has asked if she could move in with FI and I but right now we don't have the space and she would have to move out for 2 weeks during the wedding and honeymoon which I don't think is fair to her.
We had a "family" meeting last night with FBIL and FSIL. Things got a little annoying with their hands off approach and letting her make every decision on her own. We got her to agree on signing a power of attorney to FI (FBIL refused to have it or share it) just incase we ever needed it for any reason. We also got her to agree to looking into getting a night nurse or seeing if her insurance would cover it. So far everything seems good with that plan. We did offer to take shifts to stay over night with her but FBIL and FSIL said they would not be doing that because she is an adult and shouldn't need supervision on their part because if something happened they would only be able to dial 911 which wouldn't do much for her.
It was very annoying to us but we can't make him say the correct things. Even FMIL got annoyed with him and his answers. But we finally got some decisions made and basically everything goes through FI and I now. I have been doing paperwork all day for her. I got all the info on going through her insurance for a night nurse. I also got the forms for her to apply to donate her body to science. We even talked about a memorial service for her since her body would not be there.
The doctor did say that if she had any side effects from treatment it would be about 6 months from now. He did not promise us this would work but he did say he has had success from it but every case is different. Right now we are still trying to figure EVERYTHING out. And start the ball rolling on several items.
Sorry this was so long!