Escort cards...do they have to be formal?

cpm1223

I'm trying to figure out how I want to do the escort cards and I'm confused as to whether I need to write:

Mr. & Mrs. Joe Smith

or if I can write:

Joe Smith & Jane Smith
(or vice versa, woman first?)

I'm making cards that will attach to (fake) sand dollars and they will be in a sandbox in the entryway to the reception area and I want to at least get a rough idea of how they should be printed because its going to take me some time to get the sand dollars ready to go!

cpm1223

I forgot another option:

Jane & Joe Smith

this one is probably better than Joe Smith & Jane Smith, oops!

dori851

I will probably put Mr. & Mrs. I'm not sure what the "right" way is though.

mancila60

I say it depends. For us doing Mr. and Mrs. Smith wouldn't work because there is a specific name that there are 3 Mr. and Mrs. so they wouldn't know who it referred to unless they were all at the same table. Personally I say Joe and Jane Smith would be best but I don't know if you have any deplicate last names on your list.

P.S. I love the idea for how you are setting up the sandbox! Super Cute!

Melissa51212

I'm doing case to case basis...some people like parents friends etc might do mr. & mrs. And our friend just Lauren and Matt smith.

bpphoto785

I think we're going to do ours informally.

candice245

I am doing mine individually but what happens if you get a reply back with Mr Smith + guest? Do you put Mr. Smith's guest?

careydes

I have gone back and forth with this, too!

I was thinking of going formal... we have more than one Mr. & Mrs xxx (not related) and way more than one Mr. & Mrs. YYY (related),  I was going to just add in first names... Mr. & Mrs. David XXX and Mr. & Mrs. Brian XXX. 

I noticed that everyone was putting their names on the Response Card differently.. Some were Mr. & Mrs, some were Bob and Jane Smith, etc.  A friend of mine said she and her bf almost made up superhero names for the response card (I was really glad I had numbered the backs when she said that!!) So now I'm thinking I might just use whatever they put on the card.  So...  I would put & guest if that's how they return the card!

I'm still not sure...

I guess I think they should match the style of the reception.  If it's a super formal reception, then they should be formal.  Mine isn't going to be super formal, so I may go the less formal route.

kimberlykh

We're doing them individually so I'm just putting "Jane Smith."  I would go with the formality of your wedding.  If it is formal, Mr and Mrs Smith.  More informal, I'd go with Jane and John Smith. 

AurorasEnvy

They don't have to be formal if you don't want them to - ours are also individual, so I'll be putting Mr. John Smith, etc.

mandi921vh

I think if your wedding is formal then I would go with Mr. and Mrs.