Co-Workers Not Invited to the Wedding

sarahmerk

Hi Everyone!

My fiance and I are getting married out of town, about six hours away.   We both have co-workers we would love to invite, and we work in places where in the past, people have invited everyone to the wedding.  

If we did that, it would add about 70 guests, which we can't handle!  So we decided not to invite anyone from work.  Problem is, now we feel terrible because they are wonderful and so excited for us.  

Would it be tacky to have some kind of party afterwards in the city we live in?  We don't have enough space at our apartment, but we were thinking of renting a room at a bar or restaurant.   If we were to do that, how do we word the invitation (would probably just be a casual email) so that it doesn't come across wrong?? 

Thanks for any advice!  

cpm1223

I'm not sure if thats a great idea, it could seem sort of gift grabby even if you have no intentions of making it seem that way.

I think your coworkers will understand that you can't invite all of them to your wedding. Of course they are excited for you but people should understand that weddings cost $ and adding that many people would cost a lot!

If I was one of your coworkers I'd probably be more upset about being invited to an after the wedding type of party, and less upset about not being invited to the wedding.

toothpastechica

I think a after-wedding party is fine as long as it doesnt feel like a wedding in any way (no cake, dont wear your dress, dont ask for/imply guests). I would probably err on the side of over casual for this type of party so it doesnt feel like "well your not good enough for the wedding so we did this". But its more just a party "Hey not all you know my new husband come over for a bbq" might be a better way to sell it.

ETA: *gifts not guests.

kimberlykh

I know that it isn't why you're doing it, but I think it may come across like you're trying to get more gifts. People understand that not everyone can be invited, I would let it be.

LOMLBOAT

I think it's all in how you say/convey the party.  If like PP said "Come meet my new hubby!" or "Back to the grind, need some drinks!" type of thing.  More of a get together than an actual 'party' I think would be fine.  I only invited 1 co-worker to my wedding because we have a relationship outside of work and the other 5 girls I hang out with were pissed, but we were over our limit by 50 people and I told them I just couldn't fit it w/ their SOs.  They were nice after a little time passed and said that we should celebrate for drinks one night after I get back.

AurorasEnvy

We're in the same situation....we are just letting it be.  Most people will be understanding that hosting a wedding is expensive and family and friends come first before coworkers.

mandi921vh

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[QUOTE]We're in the same situation....we are just letting it be.  Most people will be understanding that hosting a wedding is expensive and family and friends come first before coworkers.
Posted by AurorasEnvy[/QUOTE]

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