OMG! DJ is freaking me out!!!

JaimeD727

Ok, so I have been keeping my sh*t together fairly well this week. I have yet to freak out because of stress...that is until this morning...

Our DJ is someone I work with who has frequently DJ'ed the school dances (I work at a high school). He is very friendly, reliable, and genuinely cares about his job.

I just called him to get the number of DJs (for vendor meals) and he starts telling me that he put together a great list for our dinner/cocktail music. I requested classical rock (nothing too heavy). He asks me if I ever heard of James Brickman. Ummm...NO! So I look him up, and puked in my mouth. It is NOT the type of music FI or me, or anyone in our family listens to. Then, he said he's dedicating a song to FI and me. I'm like, oh, really? During dinner? No, for us to dance to. UMMMMMM...NO! That's what the first dance is for. The name of the song? "The Vow." I don't even know who sings it to know that it is NOT something I'd like.

FI and I have a rock/classical rock theme (first dance: Van Morrison, dad/daughter: Bruce Springsteen, mom/son: Fleetwood Mac, entrance: QUiet Riot, B & G entrance: Van Halen, Cake cutting: Def Leppard, last dance: Starship).

I know it's my wedding and I can specify what I want, but I thought if I gave him general guidelines and suggestions he'd understand what type of music we like. Now I feel like I have to list every damn song we want played so we're not stuck with cheesey horrible music that will totally affect the fun of the wedding.

Ugh...I will talk to him, but this still stresses me out. Thank you for listening to me vent: Any song suggestions you think would help him understand how to get the party started????

AurorasEnvy

First, relax =].  Second, I would talk to him about your "vision" so to speak and what you had in mind specifically, esp. for the cocktail hour and the special dances.  Everything will be okay!  Something along the lines of "You know, I listened to that link you sent me for possible cocktail music...it's nice, but FI and I were just visioning going into a totally different direction to go with the theme of our wedding..." etc.

Not sure if you guys are planning on playing only classic rock during the regular part of the reception after dinner or not.  If so, I might reconsider - FI's BM is a huge classic rock fan and for his wedding put together the entire playlist for the evening (iPod DJ).  No one danced pretty much the entire night, and it was all classic rock music.  I might give the DJ a little leeway to read the crowd & play some music outside of this genre - you might think some songs are "cheesy horrible" music, but I'd rather have my guests have a blast dancing to cheesy horrible music all night long than everyone sitting around all night wishing they'd play something more danceable than classic rock.  Just a suggestion FWIW if it matters that a lot of your guests dance.

LuckyHeather

If you like the music that he played at the dances, I’m sure it will be fine.  Just talk to him like Aurora mentioned and explain your vision.  Perhaps something in your communication with him led him to believe you wanted this?  Either way, I am sure its fixable.

 

JaimeD727

The post-dinner reception music isn't classical rock. I would say it's your typical wedding dancing music. We also had a song request on our RSVP cards, so a lot of the songs are requests from our guests. The songs range from "Loveshack" to "I like Big Butts" so I'm definitely open to anything.

Thank you for the reminder to relax!

LilyWater09

I would talk it straight to him.  Do not be afraid to be frank - it is your money.  He provides a service customized to your needs.