Help!!!

mancila60

I'm working on our formal/family picture list and I'm stuck. Both mine and FI's parents are divorced and remarried except FMIL. My parents were both remarried before I was 10 and FFIL remarried when FI was around 10. My mom says we need to do a picture with my mom and dad and FFIL and FMIL without spouces. I already have listed a picture with all parents including step parents.

I'm so confused on this. I feel it's odd to see my mom and dad together. And I don't want to hurt anyones feelings by excluding them in any way. I'm really not sure what to do! I thought I had everyone covered in every which way possible until this.

geojam224

Wow, I had to read that a few times to grasp it all.  This is something I don't need to deal with, but you said you had a big family picture planned?  And it's weird to see your bio parents together? I don't know, I do think there should be a picture of you and your bio parents.  Maybe:

1) Bride/Groom with Bio Parents

2) Bride/Groom with maternal family

3) Bride/Groom with paternal family

4) Bride + Groom with all family

That's a lot...

MrsLiggett7

I don't think you'd offend anyone by getting pictures with JUST the two people who MADE you. It's not like you're asking them to kiss and make up. Your step parents didn't have a part in concieving you, and even if they helped raise you you have included them in other pictures. Even if it's weird to see them together I still think you need a picture with your biological parents. You can have one on each side of you so they're not even really standing together.

bpphoto785

I think as long as you do pics with your parents and also pics of each parent with their spouse no one should have any grounds for complaint.

AlyssaNichol

My FI family is similar.. His mom has been married twice (and she's about to get married again in July..) and his father has been married to- we'll call her "J"- for quite a few years.  His biological mom and dad haven't spoken in YEARS.. there's a lot of bad blood between them.  My FSIL got married in November and she actually had a picture of their mom, her new fiance, their dad, and his wife, FSIL and her new husband.  Everyone was in the same shot and it worked out fine.  Everyone was on their best behavior because it was a day about FSIL and her husband, NOT about the drama and bad blood between their biological mom and dad.  For our wedding, FI and I are foregoing any posed family pics--just our personal preference.  I think everyone should realize that it's YOUR day and get along.. it's not like they have to speak to eachother or 'kiss and make up.'  Good luck!!!

mandi921vh

I don't think there is anything wrong with having a picture of you with your parents. My BIL had a picture of him with his parents who hate each other (they have been divorced for a long time), but they sucked it up for a few minutes.